Monday, January 01, 2001

Lashon Hara and Sexual Crimes

Lashon Hara and Sex Crimes
('derogatory speech, that is true')
Chofetz Chaim
  (Incest, Sexual Abuse, Sexual Assault, Clergy Sexual Abuse
Professional Sexual Misconduct, Sexual Harassment)

Thou shalt not go up and down as a talebearer among thy people; neither shalt thou stand idly by the blood of thy neighbor" (Leviticus 19:16). 

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Table of Contents:   
  1. The Physical, Sexual and Emotional Abuse of Children - By Rabbi Mark Dratch
  2. When Scandal Hits Home - By Gary Rosenblatt
  3. Let Them Talk: The Mitzvah to Speak Lashon Hara - By Rabbi Mark Dratch 
  4. Informing on Others for Violating American Laws: A Jewish Law Review
  5. Speaking Lashon Hara About The Dead (saying bad things about someone who died) (01/16/2006)

The Physical, Sexual and Emotional Abuse of Children
By Rabbi Mark Dratch
Originally published by the RCA Roundtable, Nissan 5752

Words from Rabbi Dratch:

This article also appears in the Domestic Violence Handbook of the Jewish Family Services of Los Angeles and in the Rabbinic Guide for Domestic Violence of Jewish Women International.
Jewish children, like children everywhere, are the victims of physical, sexual, and emotional abuse.1 Yet, we fool ourselves into thinking, "it can't happen to us." While recent reports in the media have made public that we are not free of this curse, most of the cases in our families, schools, and institutions go unreported or are hushed up and, hence, true statistics are unavailable. This denial has many sources: the incredulity that such ugly behavior can exist among our people always so proud of our exemplary home-life; the fear that it will bring Jews into disrepute; the apprehension that the child victim will have his/her reputation tarnished; and so on. But such a posture by the community remains inexcusable because we thereby shirk our responsibility to our children, denying the victims of abuse the safe haven of a caring and nurturing home and school, and preventing them from growing up with the physical and psychological security they need and deserve. It is for this sin of omission that our entire community must give din vi-heshbon, a complete and unequivocal reckoning. And it is to protect the bodies and souls of our innocent children that we must speak out and act.
What obligations does Jewish law impose upon us in order to protect our children from actual or potential abusers? May we inform civil authorities? Are there problems of lashon hara or hillul Hashem?

Since corporal punishment was viewed as an effective means of shaping the characters of young children, hitting one's child or student as a tool in education and discipline was made an exception to this injunction against such physical assault.2 Verses such as "He that spareth the rod hateth his child, but he who loveth him chasteneth him betimes" (Proverbs 13:24) appear to deem corporal punishment an acceptable, even preferred form of discipline.3 This dispensation is very limited and physical abuse4 and excessive physical punishment5 are prohibited by Torah law. The halakhic parameters of discipline, especially physical punishment, deserve significant attention beyond the scope of this paper.6
Abuse in the form of sexual relations between parents and children and between teachers and students whether consensual or forced, homosexual or heterosexual, are prohibited by the Torah! The Torah not only bans genital penetration, but any form of illicit fondling or inappropriate behavior for the purpose of gratifying sexual desire.8
Abuse, manifested in overly harsh criticism, name calling, and intimidating and degrading speech, is also biblically prohibited,9 even if the victim is a minor.10 Of great significance is the lifelong psychological trauma that impacts on the physical and emotional well-being of victims of physical, sexual, and emotional abuse. The halakhic consequences of mental trauma were considered by Rabbi Moshe Feinstein in evaluating the case of a woman who, by fulfilling certain mitzvot, might suffer dangerous psychological reactions and, hence, be considered pikuach nefesh. In one responsum Rabbi Feinstein permitted eating on Yom Kippur as well as the use of contraception.11 Although these dispensations were granted because of the potential physical harm this woman may inflict upon herself or others, the same apprehension was enunciated by our sages concerning the consequences of physical abuse.12 Thus, both the physical and psychological consequences of abuse must be addressed as cases of pikuach nefesh.

How for does our obligation of pikuach nefesh in responding to physical abuse extend? The Talmud, Sanhedrin 73a, bases its requirement to save someone under attack upon two verses: "And thou shalt restore him to himself (Deut. 22:2), which dictates personal intervention, and "Thou shalt not stand idly by the blood of your neighbor" (Lev. 19:16), which directs one even to hire others to accomplish the goal. In codifying this low in Hilkhot Rotseiach 1: 14 Rambam derives the obligation from only one verse.' He writes, Anyone who can save (someone's life) and does not do so transgresses, "Thou shalt not stand idly by the blood of your neighbor." Similarly, if one sees his brother drowning in the sea, accosted by robbers, or attacked by wild animals and can save him personally or can hire others to save him, and does not save him, or he heard non-Jews or informers plotting evil or attempting to entrap another and he does not inform him...transgresses 'Thou shalt not stand idly by the blood of your neighbor.'
Thus, according to Rambam, both the personal and delegated responsibility enjoined by the "neighbor's blood" obligation require the same aggressive, full pursuit of the goal or saving the victim. Lo ta'amod requires a person to exhaust all means in order to effect the saving of the individual.14 This can be accomplished personally, by reporting the matter to the authorities, or by hiring others to accomplish the rescue. However, until the victim has been fully extricated from the dangerous predicament the obligation still obtains.
One who has information to report and fails to do so is in violation of the "neighbor's blood" obligation,15 and of "if he does not utter it then he shall bear his iniquity" (Lev. 5:1).16 While in monetary affairs the witness can wait until summoned, in other matters the witness must come forward voluntarily17 in order to "destroy the evil from your midst." 18
A child must be removed from his home if he is in imminent danger of abuse. The welfare of the child supersedes any right the parent may claim; this is a guiding principle in Jewish legal thinking in the area of child custody. Rema asserts that the general ruling placing daughters in the custody of their mothers is premised on the assumption that such placement is in the child's best interest. If, however, the court judges that a daughter would be better served in the custody of her father, she is placed with him.19 Even if removal from the parental home would lead to the child's placement in a foster home or institution which is not observant of Torah practices (although one must attempt to ensure that placement is in an observant environment if possible), the reporter does not violate "Thou shalt not place a stumbling block before the blind" (Lev. 19:14). Certainly, the physical safety of the child supersedes all other considerations.
Responsa Kiryat Channah, (R. Gershon Koblentz of Metz, printed in 1685), no. 22, holds the teacher financially liable for damages that the child incurs under his care, considering a teacher's salary to be sechar shimur, compensation to protect a child from harm. He maintains that the mitzvah exemption generated by the teacher-student relationship as described by the Mishnah, Makkot 8a, applies only to galut and not to financial liability. Responsa Shevut Yaakov, no. 140, disagrees, holding that the teacher is technically exempt from any liability. He posits that the mitzvah exemption applies to financial liability as well as to galut. However, he concurs that as a matter of social welfare, the teacher should be held responsible for financial compensation. Both authorities agree that this teacher be separated from his students. Thus, not only may we remove an abusive teacher from the classroom; we must remove him lest we be in violation of the biblical ordinance, "Do not stand idly by the blood of your neighbor" (Lev. 19:16). We have policies in our day schools, which remove a religious studies teacher who has violated Shabbat or other ritual practices, it would be absurd to refuse to remove a child abuser from his classroom. Are such teachers not in violation of the Torah as well? Is the sanctity of Shabbat that much more important to us then the innocence and safety of tinokot shel bet Rabban, our school children? Not only must abusive teachers be removed, but also their identities must be made known throughout the entire system of schools in order to prevent future abuse of other children.
The obligation to save those who are sexually abused are even more stringent. A parent or teacher who has intercourse with a child is considered a rodef (pursuer) and must be stopped. 21 This designation of the abuser as rodef mandates even killing him if that is the only way to prevent him from committing a sexual assault.22 Thus, one must certainly do everything possible to guarantee that children are protected from the abuser. Although one who molests children without genital penetration technically does not come under the category of rodef because of the sexual act itself,23 he is considered a rodef because of the psychological trauma and depression he causes to the victim as proven above. Additional obligations to rescue abused children may be derived from such verses as, "Thou shalt surely rebuke thy neighbor" (Lev. 19:16), 24 "Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself" (Lev. 19:18),25 "Thou shalt not place a stumbling block before the blind" (Lev. 19:14),26 "Do not stand idly by the blood of your neighbor" (Lev. 19:16), 27 and the biblical obligation to remove potential dangers from our homes recorded in Ketubot 41b. 'R. Nathan said, 'Whence is it derived that a person may not breed a bad dog in his home nor place a shaking ladder in his house? It is said, "Thou shalt not bring blood upon thy house" (Deut. 22:8).'"
In addition to the halakhic requirements of pikuach nefesh and rodef, jurisdictions have laws which require anyone who works with children to report suspicions of abuse and, thus, dina de-malkhuta dina (the law of the country is binding) obtains.28 While dina de-malkhuta dina does apply when the demands of the state call for the violation of Jewish law,29 this paper proves that such reporting not only does not violate Jewish law, but that Jewish law makes such reporting imperative.
Is discussing or reporting an alleged abuser a violation of the laws against lashon hara? Consider the Talmudic case of Tuvya and Zigud (Pesahim 113b),
It once happened that Tuvya sinned and Zigud came and testified against him alone before R. Papa. He had Zigud punished. "Tuvya sinned and Zigud is punished!" he exclaimed. He said to him, "Yes, for it is written, 'One witness shall not rise up against a man' (Deut. 19:15), whereas you have testified against him alone; you have merely brought him into ill repute."
Since this testimony was inadmissible, Zigud has done no more than spread ugly rumors about the accused and has violated the prohibition, "Thou shalt not go as a talebearer" (Lev. 19:16).
However, R. Papa's actions in Pesahim seem to be contradicted by the Talmud (Baba Kamma 56a) which condemns even a single individual who withholds evidence as one who is exempt from human judgment but liable to the judgments of Heaven. Rashi observes that since the attestation of one witness can obligate the party to take an oath, such testimony is efficacious: such a statement is not lashon hara and its declaration is imperative. Rema extends the moral imperative of one witness to testify to all cases in which there is a benefit, including preventing another person from sinning.30 In fact, there is no contradiction. The case of Tuvya and Zigud teaches that if the sin has already been committed, the testimony of only one witness is prohibited, constituting a violation of motsi shem ra. Baba Kamma requires testimony because there will be a future benefit.
Despite the permissibility generated by the need to prevent future injury, Hafetz Hayyim prohibits the revelation of any information that would cause harm to the accused that is not based on bonafide evidence worthy of a court of Iaw.31 This prevents an innocent person from becoming the victim of false accusations and slander.32 This restriction severely hinders the revelation of instances of child abuse where the only confirmation of the abuse is the statements of minors whose veracity is unreliable, as they are generally considered as unfit witnesses,33 or circumstantial physical evidence. However, because confidential reports to agencies responsible for investigating such allegations will not harm a person's reputation and because the testimony of children, supported by significant suspicions, may be acceptable testimony,34 this restriction does not prevent the proper prosecution of abusers or endanger the well being of children. In addition, when physical and mental pikuach nefesh is involved, one must, after careful deliberation and consideration of the evidence and its consequences, reveal serious suspicions.
Thus, in cases of child abuse, where, after careful evaluation of the evidence it is believed that abuse has occurred, there is no prohibition of rehilut-- even outside of the judiciary process. On the contrary, it is a mitzvah to inform others so as to protect them and their families from possible harm. Hafetz Hayyim, rejecting the possible objections of those who would deem this an unwarranted leniency, states that withholding such information is tantamount to withholding testimony in a court of law and is prohibited by "Thou shalt not stand idly by the blood of thy brother" (Lev. 19:16).35 This obligation to reveal this information holds: even outside of court proceedings;36 even if the informer is the sole source of information; even if the statement is based solely upon hearsay; and even if the abuser promises not to harm anyone else if there is concern that he cannot be trusted.37
Based on the verse, "These are the judgments which you shall place before them: (Ex. 21:1), Jewish law prohibits adjudication by Jews in non-Jewish courts.38 Rambam, elaborating on the severity of this sin, claims that "whoever adjudicates in a non-Jewish court ... is wicked and it is as though he has reviled, blasphemed, and rebelled against the law of Moses." 39
Many explain that the prohibition of mesirah, the reporting of a fellow Jew to civil authorities, is for the purpose of privileging the Jewish legal system over those of others. All legal matters concerning Jews should be redressed in a Jewish court according to Jewish law. However, there are many reasons why this prohibition does not apply in the case of child abuse.
  1. Arukh HaShulhan maintains that mesirah was prohibited because of the nature of autocratic governments under which Jews lived throughout much of our history. Such informing often led to dangerous persecution of the entire Jewish Community. He posits that this injunction no longer applies in those communities in which the government is generally fair and non-discriminatory.40 Accordingly, it is obligatory in the Western world today to inform the civil authorities about child abusers.
  2. The prohibition of mesirah applies only when testimony assists civil authorities in illegally obtaining the money of another Jew, not when it aids a non-Jewish government in fulfilling such rightful duties as collecting taxes and punishing criminals. When, however, the information concerns the criminal activities of a fellow Jew-- as long as the Jewish criminal has also violated a Torah law, and even if the punishment will be more severe than the Torah prescribes 41 -- the ban of mesirah does not apply.42
  3. Even should one hold that the prohibition of mesirah is relevant today, reporting child abusers to civil authorities is nevertheless mandatory. According to Rema, even when the prohibition of mesirah is in force, "a person who attacks others should be punished. If the Jewish authorities do not have the power to punish him, he must be punished by the civil authorities."43 Our Batei Din today have neither the power nor the authority to handle such matters.
  4. Shulhan Arukh rules that the prohibition of mesirah restricts an individual who is being harassed from making a report to the civil authorities. However, when there is a meitzar hatzibbur (public menace), mesirah is permissible.44 Child abusers and molesters clearly endanger the welfare of many children with whom they have contact.45
  5. The concern of hillul Hashem (desecrating God's Name) has also been raised as an objection to the reporting of Jewish child abusers, i.e., it would be disgraceful for a Jew, especially an Orthodox one, to be tried publicly for such an offense and a hillul Hashem to resort to non-Jewish courts.46 However, the problem of hillul Hashem cuts both ways. Not reporting or testifying about such abuse, when such is required by civil law, is classified by Rosh as hillul HaShem.47 Although, according to Shulhan Arukh, the desecration of God's Name occurs only in those cases when Jewish witnesses have been specifically designated by the non-Jews to testify, 48 Bach maintains that Rosh's position applies in our own day even when such witnesses have not been officially summoned because of the danger to Jewish lives that may subsequently ensue by withholding information. Certainly, in countries where physicians, teachers, and youth workers are required by law to report suspicions of child abuse, it would be a hillul Hashem and a violation of dina de-malkhuta dina to withhold such information.
The Mishnah, Avot 4:4, reminds us that sequestering a hillul Hashem will always be unsuccessful: "Whoever desecrates the name of Heaven in private will ultimately be punished in public, whether the desecration was committed unintentionally or intentionally." Hence, a conspiracy to conceal information about abuse will ultimately be made public, creating an even greater hillul Hashem. The greater severity of the hillul Hashem in concealing the information can be further supported by the Talmud, Yoma 86b, which maintains that "one should expose hypocrites to prevent the desecration of the Name.49 Rashi explains that the reason for this disclosure is that people, thinking that this person is righteous, may learn from his behavior. Rambam is of the opinion that after unsuccessful attempts to correct the matter privately, public remonstration and broadcasting of the outrage is required. There is no concern about the hillul Hashem of exposing the offense.
For those who maintain a stricter interpretation of the prohibition of mesirah, there is yet another means by which to enable reporting: if a case originally brought before a Bet Din is recommended by the Jewish court for adjudication in a civil court, the prohibition of mesirah does not apply.50 The Rabbinical Council of America should either authorize its Bet Din or establish a special Bet Din to hear cases of alleged abuse and to make appropriate recommendations.51
  1. Two informative articles appeared in Ten Da'at, Sivan 5748: "Child Abuse: A School Meets a Crisis" by Rabbi William S. Atshul and "Identifying the Abused Child: The Role of Day School Educators" by Dr. David Pelcovitz.
  2. Makkot 8a.
  3. See also Proverbs 3:11-12, 10:13, 19:18, 19:29, 20:30, 26:3, 29:15, 29:17. For a collection of rabbinic statements concerning corporal punishment see Zvi Elimelekh Bloom, Hanhagot HaHinukh (Jerusalem, 5741), pp. 140-158.
  4. Hilkhot Hovel uMazik 5:1; Yoreh De'ah 450:1.
  5. Hilkhot Talmud Torah 2:2; Yoreh De'ah 240:10: Kitzur Shulhan Arukh 165:7.
  6. The parameters and limitation of corporal punishment are briefly analyzed by Rabbi Gedclia Dov Schwartz in "The Abused Child: Halachic Insights," Ten Da'at, Sivan 5748.
  7. Leviticus, chapter 18.
  8. Shabbat 13a; Hilkhot Issurei Bi'ah 2 1:1: Sefer HaMitzvot, prohibition no, 353 and Megilat Esther; Sefer Mitzvot Gadol, prohibition no. 126: Sefer HaHinukh, no. 188; Even HaEzer 20:1. Others quote opinions that maintain that intimacy without penetration is rabbinically forbidden, see Ramban on Shabbat 13a and on Sefer HaMitzvot, ibid. (Ramban himself may hold that the prohibition is biblical): Zohar HaRakiah of Rashbatz, Prohibition no. 11. See Biur haGra 20: 1.
  9. "And ye shall not wrong one another," Leviticus 25:17. See Me'irat Einayim to Hoshen Mishpat 420, no. 49.
  10. Baba Kamma 90a; Hilkhot Hovel uMazik 3:5; Hoshen Mishpat 420:38.
  11. Iggerot Moshe, Even HaEzer IV, no.68.
  12. Masekhet Semahot, chapter 2: Kitzur Shulhan Arukh 165:7; Hiddushei R. Akiva Eiger, Yoreh De'ah 240:20.
  13. Minhat Hinukh, no. 237 questions why Rambam ignores the "restoration obligation"..He offers no resolution. See Migdal Oz on Rambam and my article, "His Money or Her Life? Heinz's Dilemma in Jewish Law,' Journal of Halacha and Contemporary Society, Vol. XX. Fall 1990.
  14. Rashi, Sanhedrin 73a, s.v. lo ta'amod. Rambam, Hilkhot Rotzeich 1:15, adds both affirmative and prohibitive injunctions to this obligation: "And thou shalt cut off her hand, thine eye shall have no pity' (Deut. 25:12).
  15. Sifra, Arukh Hashulhan, Hoshen Mishpat 28:4
  16. Hilkhot Edut 1:1.
  17. Kesef Mishnah to Hilkhot Edut 1:1.
  18. Rosh to Makkot, chapter 1, no. 1.
  19. Even HaEzer 82:7. See also Radbaz 1: 123; Responsa Darkei No'am, Even HaEzer no. 126; Responsa Mishpetei Shmuel, no. 90. According to Tosaphot, Sanhedrin 72b, s.v. kan be-av al ha-ben, if a father clearly lacks compassion for his child, the child may kill him in self-defense. See also Maggid Mishnah to Hilkhot Geneivah 9: 10. See Gedalich Aharon Rabinowitz. "Takkonot Banim Mukkim al yedei HaHorim." in Halakhah uRefuah, Moshe Hirshler, ed., (Chicago: Bet Midrash Latorah, 5740), pp. 336-48.
  20. Dr. Abraham Abraham in Nishmat Avraham, Vol. IV, p. 208, cites Rabbi Eliezer Waldenberg who allows placement of abused children in a non-observant environment because: 1) The reporter is only a gorem, he is not personally facilitating the placement: 2) There is a chance that the government agency will place the child in an observant environment: and 3) As a minor, the abused is not obliged to fulfill the mitzvot. At the age of Bar Mitzvah he may find himself in an observant environment. Rabbis Auerbach and Elyashev make similar recommendations. However. since physical and psychological pikuach nefesh is involved, such reasoning seems unnecessary,
  21. Killing a rodef is permissible only to prevent future abuse, not to punish past crimes.
  22.  Sanhedrin 73a; Hilkhot Rotzeich 1:10; Hoshen Mishpat 425:3-4.
  23. Sanhedrin 73a; and Tosaphot, s.v. hayavei keritut.
  24. Arakhin 16b; Hilkhot De'ot 6:6-7.
  25. Shabbot 31a; Hilkhot De'ot 6:3.
  26. Avodah Zarah 6b; Hilkhot Rotzeiah 12:14.
  27. Sanhedrin 73a;: Hilkhot Rotzeiah 1:14.
  28. Gloss of Rema to Hoshen Mishpat 369:11, "Dina de-malkhuta dina applied ... where the legislation protects the welfare of the citizens.' See Shmuel Shiloh, Dina De-Malkhuta Dina, (Jerusalem: 5735). pp. 115, 147-149, 187ff.
  29. Siftei Kohen to Hoshen Mishpat 73, no. 39 and Responsa Chatam Sofer, Hoshen Mishpat, no. 44.
  30. Gloss to Hoshen Mishpat 28:1.
  31. Hafetz Hayyim, Be'er Mayyim Hayyim, Hilkhot Rehilut, kelal 7, no. 20.
  32. Be'er Mayyim Hayyim, Hilkhot Rehilut, Kelal 9, no. 20.
  33. Hilkhot Edut 9:1; Hoshen Mishpat 35:1.
  34. Gloss of Rema to Hoshen Mishpat 35:14 which, under certain circumstances, accepts minors as eidei birrur based on a Takkanat kadmonim ascribed to either Rabbeinu Tam or Rabbeinu Gershom Me'Or haGolah.
  35. Be'er Mayyim Hayyim, Hilkhot Rehilut. kelal 9, no. 1.
  36. Hilkhot Rehilut, kelal 9, no. 3.
  37. Hilkhot Rehilut, kelal 9, no. 3 and Be'er Mayyim Hayyim nos. 9 and 10.
  38. Gittin 88b.
  39. Hilkhot Sanhedrin 26:7. For discussions of the prohibition of litigating in secular courts see Herschel Schachter, "Dina deMaIchusa Dina." Journal of Halacha and Contemporary Society, Vol. 1, no. 1. and Simcha Krauss, "Litigation in Secular Courts.' Journal of Halacha and Contemporary Society, Vol. 11, no. 1.
  40. Arukh HaShulhan, Hoshen Mishpat 388:7. This source is cited authoritatively by Rabbi Gedalia Dov Schwartz in "The Abused Child: Halakhic Insights." Ten Da'at, Sivan 5748. p. 12.
  41. RaN to Sanhediin 46a. See, however, Responsa Rema, no. 88, who maintains that according to Tosaphot, Baba Kamma 114a, s.v., ve-lo, if the punishment is greater than the Torah prescribes, there is a prohibition of mesirah.
  42. Herschel Schachter, "Dina deMalchuso, Dina," p. 118.
  43. Hoshen Mishpat 338:7 and Shakh, no. 45. See also Gloss of Rema to Hoshen Mishpat 338:9; B'nei Hayei and Maharam miRiszburg cited in Pahad Yitzhak, Maarekhet Hoveil Behaveiro.
  44. Hoshen Mishpat 338:12 according to the text quoted by Shakh, no. 59 and Gra no. 71.
  45. See statement of Rabbi Waldenberg quoted in Nishmat Avraham, Vol. IV, p. 209.
  46. See Responsa Binyamin Zev, no. 282 and Responsa Ba'i Hayi, Hoshen, Mishpat no. 158.
  47. Rosh to Baba Kamma, chapter 10, no. 14.
  48. Shulhan Arukh, Hoshen Mishpat 28:3.
  49. See also Hilkhot De'ot 6:8
  50. Hoshen Mishpat 26:2.
  51. Some have raised the objection of reporting child abusers for fear of the dangers of sexual molestation or life-threatening attacks they may face in jail. First, is it better not to report, allow him to remain free, and to subject innocent children to more certain abuse by this criminal? Second, reporting suspicions of abuse, and even testifying in a civil court, is not the proximate cause of such risk: Too often the system fails to incarcerate these perpetrators; the reporting only starts a long process that may lead to incarceration: whatever attacks occur are perpetrated by another person. The restriction of "Thou shaft not place a stumbling block" (Lev. 19:14) does not obtain. (For a discussion of the parameters of the prohibition of lifnei iveir see my 'The Politics of Selecting a Political Candidate,' Journal of Halacha and Contemporary Society, Vol. XI, Spring 1986, pp. 5-18.) In addition, the reporter is merely a gerama (indirect cause) for any subsequent difficulties that may occur and holds no liability. For a discussion of the parameters of gerama see my "suing Your Rabbi: Clergy Malpractice in Jewish Law," Journal of Halachah and Contemporary Society, Vol. XVIII, Fall 1989, pp. 5-18.

When Scandal Hits Home
By Gary Rosenblatt
Hadassah Magazine - November, 2002
Thou shalt not go up and down as a talebearer among thy people; neither shalt thou stand idly by the blood of thy neighbor" (Leviticus 19:16).
How does a Jewish journalist respond when his personal preference to protect, if not praise, the Jewish community conflicts with his professional instinct to pursue a major investigative story?  Thirty years into my newspaper career, I was confronted with that dilemma most profoundly when, in early 2000, I learned that a prominent Orthodox rabbinical youth leader was alleged to have been abusing teens in his charge for some three decades. The complaints were not new, but they had gone nowhere over the years as rabbis and other officials of the leading youth organization dismissed, challenged or ignored them. As I began speaking to former victims-more than two dozen over a period of several months-I became increasingly convinced that it was my job, as a Jew and a journalist, to expose the situation.
Seeking rabbinic guidance, I called a prominent rabbi who is an expert in the area of lashon hara, or speaking negatively about another person, a biblical prohibition that poses a serious impediment to a journalist seeking to balance the profession with halakha, or Jewish law. The rabbi's advice was satisfying personally and professionally, renewing my faith in the wisdom of our sages.
He explained that the key factor in such matters is to protect the innocent from harm. If there was any way I could make certain that the rabbi I was investigating would be removed from all contact with potential victims without publishing the article, I should do so, so as not to embarrass him publicly. If, on the other hand, I was certain that the only way he would be removed from his post was through exposure, then I was not only permitted to publish but commanded to do so, the scholar told me.
In the ensuing weeks, I became even more certain that no meaningful changes would be made by the organization in question unless the situation became public knowledge. In June 2000, my lengthy expose was published; the next day the rabbi was forced to resign. The organization where he had worked established a blue-ribbon panel to review the situation and its subsequent report was far more detailed and damaging then mine. This past June the rabbi was found guilty by a New Jersey jury of sexually abusing two teenage girls in the mid-1990's-he was their principal at a yeshiva at the time-and he was due to be sentenced in early last month, facing as much as 20 years in jail.
End of story? Many in the community would hope so, but unfortunately, in some ways, the story is just beginning.
No segment of our society is immune from cases of abuse. The question is how it deals with them-by protecting the innocents or the accused? Anyone who has followed the horrors of the Catholic Church's scandal and the case of the rabbi must recognize that while the scope of the problem of clergy abuse in the Catholic and Jewish communities is vastly different -and this point cannot be overemphasized-the fact remains that the institutional mindset in dealing with the crisis has been remarkably similar. Both the Church and the rabbinic and Jewish lay leaders involved covered up the facts, sympathized with the accused, rejected the accusers, took corrective measures only under pressure, and lashed out at the press as the source of the problem.
Yes, improvements are now being made in the Jewish community to give parents greater involvement in youth groups and make both counselors and youngsters more aware of the potential problems of abuse. But no system has been put in place that would significantly ease the stigma of coming forward to charge an abuser or to deal with such perpetrators centrally and authoritatively if and when allegations are made. And no one has fully assessed the role of our Jewish newspapers in dealing with painful communal problems-when to hold back, when to go forward.
What is encouraging is that rabbinic scholars over the centuries have had much to say about these matters and their good judgment speaks to us today.
But are we listening?
Gary Rosenblatt is editor and publisher of The Jewish Week of New York.

Let Them Talk: The Mitzvah to Speak Lashon Hara
By Rabbi Mark Dratch - January 19, 2006
The prohibition of Lashon Hara (slander, gossip, tale-bearing) is often used as a tool to silence abuse victims and their advocates from speaking out against abusers. “You are not allowed to say negative things,” they are told. “There’s no proof!” “There are no witnesses.” “You can’t make this public.” “Keep the secret! Remain silent!” And so women, girls, boys, and men are silenced and are often unable to get the help that they need or appeal for the support that they deserve. By invoking lashon hara improperly, the community to which they turn not only revictimizes them, but enables their abusers to continue abusing them and, potentially, others as well. 

These attitudes are articulated by many: rabbis, friends, neighbors. They find expression in many places, including the following rabbinic legal responsum. The rabbi is asked whether one should report to the legal authorities a father who one suspects of sexually molesting his daughter or a teacher who one suspects of sexually molesting his student. In response, he warns that, unless there are two valid witnesses who actually saw the assault, it is forbidden for anyone to speak about it at all, even the victim. He forbids others who may have learned of the molestation through hearsay or circumstantial evidence from saying anything, categorizing their comments as motzi shem ra—slander, distortions, and lies. In his opinion, the daughter’s disclosure is unacceptable: she is a minor, a female and a relative. The mother’s testimony is unacceptable: she is a relative and a female. The doctor’s opinion is unacceptable; based on his examination of the child, he can only testify that she had been abused, not who abused her. Furthermore, the rabbi asserts, there is a hazakah (a legal presumption of human behavior) that a father does not molest his daughter, and, unless proven otherwise, this presumption overrides any concerns that may be raised. There being no acceptable or legally obtained evidence to support the accusation, any mention of it at all is prohibited.1 

This responsum is unacceptable. Is it really prohibited for victims of abuse— whether child or adult, woman or man—to speak of the mistreatment and exploitation that they suffered? Is this really what Jewish law expects when it comes to protecting individual innocents and society as a whole from real and potential perpetrators? What are the laws of lashon hara? How do they apply to cases of domestic violence and child abuse? What do the sources really say? May a survivor speak out? May others repeat the allegations they heard? 

The Prohibition
“You shall not go up and down as a slanderer among your people; nor you shall stand by the blood of your friend; I am the Lord” (Lev. 19:16) is the basis of the biblical prohibitions proscribing lashon hara (talk that is damaging to another’s reputation and is 
true), motzi shem ra (talk that is damaging and is false) and rekhilut (tale bearing). These prohibitions include not only speaking derogatorily, but listening to deprecating speech as well. The great works of Shemirat HaLashon and Hafetz Hayyim, authored by the revered sage Rabbi Yisrael Meir ha-Kohen Kagan (1838-1933) are the essential works in this area, and no discussion of lashon hara can begin or proceed without them. (For the purpose of this article, unless otherwise noted, the term lashon hara will be used to refer to all derogatory speech, including motzi shem ra and rekhilut as well.) 

While these prohibitions are serious and consequential, they are not absolute. There are times when one must share disparaging and critical information with others. There is a duty, for example, to testify in a court of law and to reveal information about another’s illicit behavior.2 

What situations require disclosure? What are the conditions under which disclosure may take place?
At first glance, unless the speech fulfills all of the conditions necessary to be accepted as legal testimony, i.e., the statement of two valid witnesses, male, religiously observant and unrelated to each other or the subject of their testimony, any disclosure should be prohibited. The Talmud, Pesahim 113b, relates that one of three persons that “the Holy One, blessed be He, hates” is “one who sees something indecent in his neighbor and testifies against him as the sole witness.” Because a Jewish court requires two witnesses, the testimony of a single witness is invalid and ineffective. There being no possible appropriate and legal consequence to this revelation, the witness has succeeded in doing nothing more than defaming a person’s character. The Talmud relates: 

As it once happened that Tuviah sinned and Zigud alone came and testified against him before R. Papa, [whereupon] [R. Papa] had Zigud punished. ‘Tuviah sinned and Zigud is punished!’ exclaimed [Zigud], ‘Even so,’ said [R. Papa] to him, ‘for it is written, “One witness shall not rise up against a man, (Deut. 19:15)” whereas you have testified against him alone: you merely bring him into ill repute.’ R. Samuel son of R. Isaac said in Rav's name: Yet he (the single witness) may hate [the sinner]. 

The prohibition against lashon hara does not only pertain when one’s intentions are negative, i.e., the discrediting of another’s reputation—to shame him or degrade him; they apply even when one one’s intentions are neutral or one’s statements are merely in jest.3 

The Obligation to Speak
There are times when a person is obligated to speak out, even when he is the sole informant and even though the information is disparaging. Specifically, if a person’s intent in sharing the negative information is for a to’elet, a positive, constructive, and beneficial purpose, the prohibition against lashon hara does not apply.4 Motzi shem ra, spouting lies and spreading disinformation, is always prohibited. And if the lashon hara serves as a warning against the possibility of future harm, such communication is not only permissible, but, under certain conditions it is compulsory. This applies even when one is the sole source of the information; the prohibition represented by Zigud’s testimony in Pesahim 113b applies only in a court setting.5 Although Hafetz Hayyim disagrees with this distinction and maintains that solitary testimony is prohibited both in a court and outside of a court,6 even he agrees that where there is a to’elet, such speech is permitted. 
Rabbi Eliyahu ben Hayyim (Ra’anah) even allows seeking derogatory information about someone and permits the soliciting of witnesses of a possible transgression. Although Rosh7 bans such a public appeal unless two witnesses have already come forward against the alleged sinner—after all, “fishing” publicly for evidence against someone is itself damaging to that person’s reputation—Ra’anah explains that that applies only when there are no reasonable suspicions against the individual at all. But, when one is certain that a sin has been committed and that there exist witnesses who have not come forward, he may go public with an appeal for their testimony and a court may even threaten those reluctant witnesses with contempt if they do not appear.8 

Commentators maintain that the distinction between derogatory speech that is solely detrimental and derogatory speech that serves a helpful purpose derives from the biblical verse itself. They point to the juxtaposition of the two clauses of the verse, “You shall not go up and down as a slanderer among your people” and “nor you shall stand by the blood of your neighbor” (Lev. 19:16) and note that although there is a prohibition of defamation (clause 1), that prohibition is overridden by the obligation to save another or to testify in his behalf (clause 2).9 Thus, the verse should be read, “You shall not go up and down as a slanderer among your people; but, nevertheless, you shall not stand by the blood of your neighbor (and you must speak out in order to prevent harm).” This obligation includes protection not only from physical harm, but protection from monetary and spiritual harm as well.10 

Rambam codifies this reading as a matter of law:
Anyone who can save another and does not save him violates, “You shall not stand on the blood of your neighbor.” Therefore, one who sees his
friend drowning in the sea or being attacked by robbers and is able to save him; or if he hears that others are conspiring to harm him and have set a trap, and he does not reveal this information to him, he violates that which is said in the Torah, “You shall not stand on the blood of your neighbor.”11 

To’elet is a factor in permitting not only otherwise forbidden speech, but it is a consideration in all interpersonal (bein adam le-haveiro) prohibitions as well. R. Elhanan Wasserman writes: 

All interpersonal injunctions are prohibited only [when the act is performed in a] destructive and deleterious manner, for no positive benefit. For example, the prohibition of “Do not hate your brother” prohibits only sinat hinam (wanton hatred), i.e., when he did not see him commit an illicit act. But if he witnessed an illicit act, it is permissible to hate him... So too regarding the prohibition of physical assault; Rambam wrote that this applies only if he strikes another in an aggressive manner...So too regarding the prohibition “You shall not go as a tale bearer”- one is permitted to speak lashon hara concerning those involved in disputes in order to quell the argument... Thus, all of this indicates that all these prohibitions are permitted for the purpose of to’elet.12 

Nevertheless, there is widespread misunderstanding of the laws of lashon hara and many invoke this prohibition as an excuse for not sharing information, even when that information would be beneficial to another person. R. Yisrael Isser, author of Pit’hei Teshuvah, cautions against being overly righteous by being reluctant to share helpful, but derogatory information: 

The Magen Avraham and the mussar books (ethical treatises) write at length concerning the prohibition of lashon hara. I have found it appropriate to write about the other side. There is a sin even greater than [speaking lashon hara], and one which is more widespread, i.e., the sin of refraining from informing another about a situation in which one can save him from being victimized—all out of concern for lashon hara... One who behaves in this manner, his sin is too great to bear and he violates, “You shall not stand by the blood of your brother.”13 

R. Yisrael Isser emphasizes that this obligation to speak out applies not only when a person is in physical danger, but also when he is subject to potential financial or personal harm. In addition, R. Yisrael Isser maintains that while only the speaker knows 
whether his motives for speaking out are pure or are tainted, “if his intentions are good, i.e, for the purpose of warning his fellow and saving him from ‘the snare of the fowler,’ it is a great mitzvah [to share information] and a blessing will come upon him.” 14 

The Listener
Although the Torah also prohibits listening to lashon hara, one may not lightly dismiss or ignore derogatory information that he hears about another person. While he should not accept unquestioningly a negative report as definitive, he should, nevertheless, consider that it might be true and proceed suspiciously and cautiously (derekh hashash be’alma), in light of the information he received.15 Gedaliah ben Ahikam, the assassinated governor of the Jews following the destruction of the First Temple, did not pay attention to such a report and, as a result, he was held liable for the deaths of eighty men.16 The Talmud explains that “owing to the fact that [Gedaliah] should have taken note of the advice of Yohanan the son of Kareah (who told him that Shimon b. Netaniah wanted to kill him) and did not do so, Scripture regards him as though [Gedaliah himself] had killed them himself.”17 

The Abused: Obligatory Lashon Hara
Often, a person who has been the victim of abuse or violence wants to share this information with others. Sometimes it is with a friend or family member. Sometimes it is with a police officer18 or therapist or lawyer or advocate. Sometimes it is for the purpose of seeking legal or psychological help, sometimes it may be to warn potential victims of harm or danger, and sometimes it may be just to unburden herself.19 At times there may be a productive outcome. At times there may seem to be no real effect at all.

Minhat Hinukh appears to prohibit such complaints. He writes that the victim of an interpersonal (bein adam le-haveiro) transgression may not publicly embarrass his offender. In fact, he is obligated to forgive him!20 This ruling contradicts accepted Jewish law which dictates that forgiveness must be earned by reparation, repentance, and conciliation. The righting of wrongs and the exacting of justice are prerequisites for achieving forgiveness.21 Thus, Rema rules explicitly that an injured party may withhold forgiveness if he does so with the intention of benefiting the offender.22 Such benefit may include enabling the aggressor to achieve a state of humility or helping him to see his evil ways.23 Other commentators add that one may even withhold forgiveness for one’s own personal benefit as well.24 

At first glance it appears that Hafetz Hayyim also forbids a victim to speak out, One should be exceedingly careful not to permit himself to tell others how he had a certain interaction others who stole from him or cheated him in a certain way, or who cursed him or pained him or embarrassed him. Even if he knows that he is not lying [about the events], his intention in telling serves no positive purpose in that it does not cause the perpetrators to distance themselves from their evil ways. His sole intention is to degrade them in the eyes of others by publicizing that they encroached on his property or his dignity.25 

However, even Hafetz Hayyim not only permits a victim to speak out, but at times he requires a victim to speak, specifically, if her aim in speaking out is not to exact revenge but is to achieve a positive objective (to’elet). Examples of positive intent include: 

  • protecting others from harm;26
  • preventing others from learning inappropriate behavior;27 shaming the subject into repenting;28
  • clearing one’s own reputation;29 
  • asking for advice;30 and 
    for one’s own psychological benefit. Hafetz Hayyim locates thisto’elet in the verse, “Anxiety in the heart of a man weighs him down; but a good word makes him glad” (Prov. 12:25), i.e., sharing burdens with others is therapeutic.31 

  1. Hafetz Hayyim lists seven qualifications which must be fulfilled when lashon hara is spoken for a to’elet. The following are those conditions with explanations as to how they relate to abuse victims:32 

    1. One has first hand knowledge of the problem and is not merely repeating hearsay, or he has verified the information. Certainly a victim has first hand knowledge of the abuse. How certain others must be before they repeat the allegations will be discussed later.  
    2. Careful consideration and judgment should be given to determine whether or not the act is actually a prohibited one. Every act of abuse is prohibited.33 
    3. One should first rebuke the transgressor in a private, calm, and appropriate manner in order to motivate him to change his ways. Only if one is 
      unsuccessful in achieving his ends in a private manner may she then publicize the misdeed. Private confrontation may be difficult for a victim who cannot bring herself emotionally or psychologically to confront her abuser. It may also be physically dangerous for her to do so.34 
    4. One should not exaggerate.
    5. One’s intention should be for a to’elet (constructive purpose) and not for any personal gain or benefit. In addition, one should not be motivated by hatred for the subject of the report. 
    6. One should try to achieve the constructive result without speaking lashon hara, if possible. 
    7. One should not cause more harm to the subject than he would otherwise
      deserve by law.
Condition Five: Motivation
The fifth condition, i.e., that one’s intention is only for to’elet (positive, constructive and beneficial purpose) and be free of all personal animosity, is a difficult, if not impossible, condition to fulfill. One’s intention is not always neat and unadulterated. When a person has been victimized by another—physically, emotionally, financially or sexually—feelings of anger and resentment, and even revenge and hatred, are normal. In responding to such personal violation, even if one speaks lashon hara for a to’elet, it is possible that her speech will be tinged with other feelings as well. May she still speak out? 

Hafetz Hayyim rules that even if one’s intent is for a to’elet, if it is tinged with any animosity, it is forbidden.35 He bases this judgment on a decision recorded in Shulhan Arukh, Hoshen Mishpat 421:13 where we learn that one who sees a person being beaten is permitted to use physical force, if necessary, to strike the attacker. This is permitted for two reasons: 1) in order to help the victim and 2) in order to prevent the attacker from sinning (la’afrishei mei-issura), the striking of another being a sinful act. Me’irat Einayim, no. 28, (Sema) comments that this permission is not granted if the intervener is motivated out of hatred for the attacker. In such circumstances, he explains, the intervener’s motivation is personal and is not for the purpose of performing the mitzvah of “Do not stand by the blood of your neighbor.” Thus, the intervener himself would be guilty of sinfully raising his hand against another. Turei Zahav (Taz) disagrees. He maintains that motivation is irrelevant, pointing out that, in the end, a mitzvah was performed and the victim was helped. To Taz, improper motivation is not a disqualification. 

At first glance, this difference of opinion applies to our question as well: Sema would disqualify any lashon hara that is tinged with personal bitterness; Taz would accept it as long as a to’elet was served. However, Hafetz Hayyim rejects this assertion and maintains that even according to the more permissive Taz, derogatory speech that is combined with personal bitterness is prohibited. According to Hafetz Hayyim, no 
mitzvah-outcome was achieved because the speech, in and of itself, was prohibited lashon hara. Tinged with hatred or animosity, none of the conditions that are necessary in order to permit derogatory reports (not to exaggerate, not to prejudge, not to exaggerate or affect disproportionate consequences) could be met. 

However, it is possible to apply Taz’s position to lashon hara as well. Consider: One is permitted to strike another, even if motivated by hatred, because we are concerned with the end, not the means. Striking another in order to prevent him from sinning is a permissible activity; striking him out of hatred is a prohibited activity. According to Taz, the outcome of stopping a prohibited attack justifies even the sinful blows of the intercessor. Similarly, even if we presume that the lack of compliance with the conditions permitting derogatory speech makes the lashon hara prohibited, the beneficial outcome should permit the otherwise prohibited speech. 

Although, in general, we do not permit the commission of a sin by one person in order to save another person from committing a different sin,36 pikuah nefesh, saving someone’s life and, according to Taz, protecting him from harm, permit such violation, with limited exceptions. 

Some point to a parallel to this argument—permitting the commission of a sin in order to save another person—from the laws of Shabbat.37 

The Talmud, Menahot 64a, discusses the case of a person who:

...had not heard that a child had fallen into the sea and he spread a net [on the Sabbath in order] to catch fish and he caught fish; he is guilty [violating the Sabbath]. If he spread the net to catch fish and he caught fish and also the child, Rabbah says, He is not liable; but Rava says, He is liable. ‘Rabbah says, He is not liable’ because we decide the matter by his actual deed. ‘Rava says, He is liable’ because we decide the matter by his intention. 

The consensus of legal decisors follows the opinion of Rabbah which marginalizes intention and prioritizes outcome. Since, in this case, the fisherman succeeded in saving the child, he is exempt from liability for violating the Sabbath restrictions on trapping. So too, even in a case of animosity, the to’elet result should permit even an enemy to speak lashon ha-ra. 

Furthermore, even though hatred can overshadow and distort one’s judgment, as our Sages observed, “sinah mekalkelet et ha-shurah (hatred breaks all boundaries and compromises propriety),” nevertheless, people are able to overcome the biases and influences of personal feelings for the sake of a greater good. In fact, Jewish law accepts the testimony of an adversary against his enemy. The Mishnah, Sanhedrin 27b, records the following dispute: 

A friend or an enemy [is ineligible to serve as a witness]. By “friend,” one's groomsman is meant; by “enemy,” any person who, by reason of enmity, has not spoken to another for three days is meant. To this the Rabbis replied: Jews, as a rule, are not to be suspected on such grounds. 

Despite the prohibition, “You shall not hate your brother in your heart” (Lev. 19:17) Jews are human; they still have enemies. What the Mishnah means is that, unless proven otherwise, Jews are not suspected of allowing their hatred to taint their testimony. Although all agree that an enemy may not serve as a judge, a task which requires one to make assessments based on a high level of unadulterated objectivity, all agree that an enemy is received as a witness.38 Netivot Mishpat 33:1 explains that although a judge may be unable to bring himself to find in favor or to acquit an enemy, a witness merely reports what he heard or what he saw, and is not suspected of misrepresentation. One speaking lashon hara for a to’elet is not asked to pass judgment; he is most comparable to a witness who is sharing an experience he had or information to which he is privy. 

Not all enemies are valid witnesses. A witness who has declared publicly his intention to harm the subject of his testimony is disqualified. 39 Maharshal posits that the testimony of an enemy who has not spoken to the other person for three days is acceptable; the testimony of a sonei gamur, an unmitigated enemy who is “like a pursuer (rodef) and one who seeks revenge” is not.40 In fact, “whenever you might suspect that [the witness] is acting for his own personal benefit, the witness is invalidated.”41 

However, others accept the testimony of all enemies. Maharit points to the acceptability of a husband’s testimony against a man who committed adultery with his wife.42 He observes that despite the fact that there is no greater enemy than this—“For jealousy is the rage of a man; and he will not spare in the day of vengeance” (Proverbs 6:34)—the husband is a valid witness.43
Even though personal animosity may limit one’s ability to fulfill the requirements necessary to speak lashon hara properly, nevertheless, those personal feelings neither disqualify nor exempt a person from speaking out when necessary. Hafetz Hayyim, ignoring his previous decision, emphasizes that concern over the negative impact of personal feelings on a statement do not exempt anyone from fulfilling the mandate of “Do not stand by the blood of your neighbor.” The prerequisite conditions essential for permitting negative speech are there not to disqualify a person from speaking, but, rather, to require her to overcome personal feelings and act solely for the purpose of to’elet. 44 

There are many reasons why victims of abuse may want to speak out, and despite the objections of some, there are many justifications which enable them to do so. 

Others: Obligatory Lashon Hara
One who knows that a person is potentially dangerous or hears a derogatory report about him has an obligation to share that information with others if it will contribute to their protection. Rabbeinu Yonah writes:45 

And know that in interpersonal matters like theft and robbery and physical harm and shame and verbal abuse, one may tell these matters to others; even a lone witness who observes these matters may inform, in order to help the victim and to seek truth... However, he should first rebuke the offender. 

The warning, “Do not stand by the blood of your neighbor” (Lev. 19:16) that requires of a victim to save others from harm, obligates anyone who witnesses abuse, or who has personal knowledge of an abuser who may pose a threat, to warn others about him. Even one who has no independent knowledge of the abuse, and is only permitted to “suspect” its veracity, has an obligation to protect others from possible harm.46 

Those who repeat the reports of abuse are bound by the same seven qualifications listed above:47 

  1. If one does not have first hand knowledge of the problem and is repeating hearsay, he must verify the information and know that it is true. 
  2. One should not immediately accept another’s characterization of an act as prohibited. Careful consideration and judgment should be given to personally determine whether or not the act is a prohibited one. 
  3. One should first rebuke the transgressor, if possible, in a calm and appropriate manner in order to motivate him to change his ways. Only if one is unsuccessful, may he publicize the misbehavior. 
  4. One should not exaggerate.   One’s intention should be for a to’elet and not for any personal gain or benefit. In addition, one should not be motivated by any latent hatred for the subject of the report. 
  5. One should try to achieve the constructive result without speaking lashon hara, if possible. 
  6. One should not cause more harm to the subject than he would otherwise deserve by law.

Yet another qualification must be met: when repeating the allegations, he should not give the impression that he has personal knowledge of the situation, but should introduce his comments with, “I heard it said about so and so...”48 

Condition One: Verification
How definitively must one be certain of the truth of an allegation in order to repeat it? Jewish law recognizes that those who hear allegations against abusers may not themselves be qualified as judges or investigators. Their abilities and opportunities to substantiate the accusations are limited. These limitations, however, do not exempt them from acting responsibly. 

Certainly, extreme care must be taken. The consequences of accepting and acting on false allegations, violations of the biblical prohibitions of lashon hara, halbanat penei havero ba-rabbim (public humiliation) and ona’at devarim (verbal and emotional harassment),49 can be devastating on many levels: they can destroy the reputation of the falsely accused, causing significant personal, professional, economic, and spiritual harm to him and his family; they can compromise the trust and safety of a community through the fear that anyone’s reputation can be easily damaged; and they undermine the values of fairness and justice. In fact, according to one Talmudic opinion, it was the acceptance of false and unsubstantiated reports that ultimately divided David’s kingdom and led the Jewish people to idolatry and into exile.50 

One who hears allegations that someone has abused another has an obligation to verify them—both in order to help the victim and in order to protect others from potential abuse. While it is appropriate, as well as emotionally and therapeutically beneficial, to the victim for supporters to believe her revelations without passing judgment on them or her and without doubting their truthfulness, a higher standard must be met if they are to repeat those allegations to others. To the best of their ability and without compromising the safety and integrity of the alleged victim, they should examine the claims and the circumstances surrounding them. As best they can, they must assess the credibility of the claim and investigate if the alleged victim has any malicious motivations to malign the alleged perpetrator. After all, the alleged abuser has the right to be protected from false accusations. 

However, when an alleged perpetrator is potentially dangerous to the physical, economic or spiritual well-being of others, one need not meet the standards of a court of law in order to act. “Kosher” testimony is not required. In fact, there is a takanat kadmonim (ancient enactment) which allows a court to accept the testimony of otherwise disqualified witnesses in places and circumstances in which kosher witnesses are not regularly found, like places where men do not frequent, or to matters to which men generally do not pay attention. He states explicitly: 

Even an individual woman or a relative or a child is believed concerning matters of striking (physical abuse) or shaming a scholar or other improper behavior, for it is not the practice to invite men to witness an event, nor is there time to do so (Maharik, shoresh 189; Kol Bo, no. 116). This applies when the alleger claims to be certain of her testimony (Maharik, shoresh 23).51 

And a court may place someone in niddui (excommunicative ban) based solely on allegations brought by those who are normally unqualified to testify, i.e., women and children.52 

Personal, first-hand knowledge is unnecessary in order to repeat allegations. Credible, persistent rumors and circumstantial evidence are sufficient in order to speak out against supposed abusers. The Talmud, Megillah 25b, records that it is permissible to shame publicly a person about whom there are rumors that he is an adulterer and refer to him as “gimel shin”; the two Hebrew letters are an acronym for gala shaita (adulterer, madman).53 A rumor that a certain disciple revealed a matter that had been declared a secret twenty-two years earlier was enough to ban him from entering the Bet Midrash (Study Hall).54 Rumors of impropriety, even though they were not confirmed by legal testimony, were sufficient to enable a court to remove an agent acting on its behalf.55 A reasonable presumption (‘amatla) was enough to dismiss a community functionary, such as the administrator of the Hevra Kaddisha.56 Even a court, usually constrained by a high standard of testimony which must be met before it passes judgment or metes out punishment, is authorized to administer lashes to a person who is the subject of persistent rumors of impropriety.57 And a court may place someone in niddui (excommunicative ban) determined solely by ‘omed ha-da’at (deduction based on an assessment of the merits).58 

Devarim ha-nikkarim (self-evident conditions) may also be sufficient. The Talmudic Sage Samuel asserts that King David saw devarim ha-nikkarim (self-evident conditions) concerning Mephiboshet and his activities which allowed David to punish him (II Samuel 19). Considering that when, after the suppression of the Absalom uprising, Mephiboshet appeared before the King “he had neither dressed his feet, nor trimmed his beard, nor washed his clothes” (19:24), David assumed that it was because Mephiboshet regretted David’s return to Jerusalem. David also construed some of Mephiboshet’s later remarks as confirming those suspicions.59 Thus, according to Samuel, one may act on circumstantial evidence that gives strong and conclusive support to an allegation; it is not considered lashon hara.60 

Even persistent rumors (kala de-lo pasik) alone may be proof enough. The Talmud applies this to the case of a rabbi, an individual who must be a moral exemplar for his community. When a rabbi’s integrity is called into question by persistent rumors, he can no longer function in a rabbinic capacity. Thus, Mo’ed Katan 17a, 

There was once a certain rabbi about whom rumors of impropriety were being circulated. Said Rav Yehudah, “How is one to act? To put the shammeta (excommunicative ban) on him [we cannot], as the Rabbis have need of him [as an able teacher]. Not to put the shammeta on him [we cannot tolerate] as the Name of Heaven is being profaned.” Said he to Rabbah b. Bar Hana, “Have you heard a teaching on that point?” He replied, “Thus said R. Yohanan: What means the text, ‘For the priest's lips should keep knowledge and they should seek the law at his mouth; for he is an angel of the Lord of Hosts (Malakhi 2:7)’? [It means, that] if a rabbi is like an angel of the Lord of Hosts, they should seek the law at his mouth; but if not, they should not seek the law at his mouth.” [Thereupon] Rav Yehudah pronounced the shammeta on him. 61 

Even if a certain individual performs invaluable service for the community and is deemed “indispensable” by some, he may not continue in his position if his character or behavior is not above reproach. And only “if a rabbi is like an angel of the Lord of Hosts, should they seek the law at his mouth” because the teaching of Torah is more than just an intellectual experience, the passing on of information and insights into the text. Torah is also a spiritual and moral encounter. No matter how brilliant and insightful, if the rabbi is not a moral exemplar and spiritual role model, his Torah is deficient and one should not learn from him.62 

However, Shulhan Arukh, Orah Hayyim 53:25 rules, “A (hazzan) is not removed from his position based on rumors alone... But, if witnesses come [to testify] against him in this matter, or in similar matters, [then you may] remove him.” Testimony, and not rumors, is required to remove a religious functionary. But, this statement is not absolute; many read this ruling very narrowly and do ascribe significance and consequence to rumors. They narrow Shulhan Arukh’s restrictive position to a situation in which the rumors against the hazzan did not originate with reliable sources and in which, despite the rumors, no one calls for his dismissal.63 However, if the rumors are persistent and appear to be reliable, especially if members of the community call for his dismissal, a hazzan should be removed from his position. 
The credibility afforded to a rumor is based on the premise that its very existence indicates that the person who is the subject of that rumor must necessarily be guilty, to one degree or another, of the misconduct of which he is accused: 

A person does not incur suspicion unless he has done the thing [suspected]; and if he has not done it wholly, he has done it partly; and if he has not done it partly, he has a mind to do it; and if he has not had a mind to do it, he has seen others doing it and enjoyed [the sight of it].64 

Now, experience teaches us that not every rumor is true and not every subject of every rumor, even if it is pervasive, is always guilty. The Talmud points to the claim against Moses—he was accused of adultery—which was clearly a false accusation promulgated by those who were jealous of him and his position. The Talmud therefore limits the presumption that “where there’s smoke there’s fire” to situations in which those who started the rumors are not enemies of the subject and have no personal agenda to unjustly disparage him.65 

What is a Kala de-lo Pasik, Persistent Rumor?

What is the definition of a persistent rumor which may be acted upon? The Talmud states that these are rumors that continue for more than a day and a half without interruption, assuming that the rumors were not initiated by enemies of the subject. Furthermore, if people are cowed into silence through fear and intimidation, intermittent rumors are also considered kola de-lo pasik.66 

Hafetz Hayyim reads these sources narrowly, significantly limiting the license to act upon recurring rumors. He rules that permission to act on rumors is granted only when there is a presumed certainty that the rumors are factual and when the responder is motivated by both a need to prevent the desecration of God’s Name and to protect others from harm. Furthermore, he explains that if unrelenting rumors are to permit lashon hara, they must be about a number of sins that the subject commits, not just one, even if it is recurring. And, he must be violating those sins presently, not just in the past.67 Further, he cites Shulhan Arukh, Even ha-Ezer 178:20, which discredits the claim of a
married woman who asserts that she is being sexually harassed by a certain man, an accusation which he denies. 

Nonetheless, even Shulhan Arukh agrees that an unsubstantiated accusation is ineffective, but only with regard to punishing the would-be abuser for unacceptable behavior. However, where an accusation leads to concerns about potential future victimization, the court does have the obligation, and the authority, to protect the woman from the possibility of abuse. Based solely on her say-so, and despite his refutation, the court can issue what is currently known as an “order of protection” by decreeing that he cannot speak with her or live near her. In addition, if in the court’s estimation the man is muchzak (i.e., they have a strong and compelling presumption of the man’s character and behavior) as suspect in matters of sexual impropriety, they can chastise him and threaten him that if he continues this immoral behavior they will banish him from the community. Hafetz Hayyim notes that the certainty of “muhzak” is stronger and more definitive than persistent rumors.

Another ruling introduces further restrictions on the license to act on persistent rumors. Not only must we take note of the recurrence of the rumor, its source, the number of transgressions perpetrated and the ongoing nature and currency of the violations, but permission to publicize disparaging rumors also depends on the nature of the violations suspected. Shulhan Arukh, Yoreh De’ah 334:42 rules that unless a sage or a scholar commits a sin that is as egregious as that of Jeroboam ben Navat, who erected golden calves in order to maintain the independence of his kingdom,68 any admonishment or punishment must be private. This discretion is not meant to serve as a “cover up,” but is, rather, to protect the dignity of the rabbinate and the Torah it represents. If a rabbi’s transgressions are private in nature and have not impacted on the safety or well-being of another, such discretion serves a greater good. The reputation of the rabbinate and the dignity of Torah are maintained, protected from the misdeeds of one individual. If, however, the rabbi’s sins are more egregious and there are rumors that he is involved with heretical works or that he “drinks to the accompaniment of musical instruments,” i.e., he engages in licentious behavior,69 or if his colleagues are embarrassed by his behavior and he thereby desecrates God’s Name, he should be publicly excommunicated. In fact, “Wherever there is desecration of God’s Name, honor is not extended, even to a rabbi.”70 

Repeating Public Information
Rabbah son of R. Huna said that repeating information that is already known by three people is not prohibited as lashon hara. This is because “your friend has a friend, and your friend's friend has a friend.”71 In other words, when three people know something, we assume that everyone knows it; repeating it does not add greater negative impact on the subject’s reputation. Rambam codifies this in De’ot 7:5, stipulating that
the speaker should not intend, by its publicity, to spread the word further than it is already. Hafetz Hayyim, however, reads this as a narrower, less encompassing leniency.72 Adopting the position of Tosafot,73 Hafetz Hayyim maintains that only a statement that can be interpreted in two ways, both positively and negatively, may be repeated. Tosafot assumed that if the original speaker was willing to allow the subject of his comment to learn about what he said, he must have intended his statement to be understood in a positive light. Repeating clearly negative information is prohibited, even if others know about it. Further, Hafetz Hayyim adds that the informationknown by others may be shared:
  • only if it incidentally arises in a conversation,
  • only if the repeater heard it directly as part of the original group of three,
  • only if the statement was not heard originally by people who are not
    circumspect about repeating lashon hara—because then the “friend has a
    friend” exemption does not apply,
  • only to those who will not immediately accept the aspersion as truthful,
  • only locally and not in other places, because the network of gossips is local. (This last restriction may be moot today. Modern means of communication like the telephone and internet widen the circle and influence of gossips.) 
He suggests that any leniency in this matter has been rejected by the decisors of Jewish law:
After all is said and done, behold, my brother, how carefully a person must distance himself from this leniency, which has practically no place in reality. And further, after adding up all of the details, investigation is required to determine whether the law even follows this opinion.74
Accordingly, just because others are talking about it, one does not have license to repeat it—that is, unless, there are other reasons, like to’elet, as has been discussed above. 

Lashon Hara Permitted Regarding Those Who Are Not “Your People” 

An abuser may not be protected by the laws of lashon hara altogether. “You shall not go up and down as a slanderer among your people; nor you shall stand by the blood of your friend; I am the Lord” (Lev. 19:16). Jews are enjoined from speaking lashon hara about “your people.” Those who are not considered “your people” are not protected by this injunction, and none of the qualifications and conditions discussed above applies. 

Who is “your people” and who is not? Who is “in” and who is “out” of the community? Here, as in other interpersonal and communal obligations, only those who conduct themselves in ethical and socially responsible ways are considered part of the community. The Talmud, quoting the verse, “You shall not curse a prince among your people” (Exodus 22:27), extends the protection of the verse to only to a leader who “acts like your people.”75 Those who engage in antisocial or heretical behavior have written themselves out of the community and have no claim on its protection and should not expect its privileges as expressed in numerous interpersonal obligations. Thus, a heretic or morally corrupt human being who has removed himself from the spiritual or social community has no claim on communal charity or aid and is not protected against such violations as lashon hara. In fact, it is a mitzvah (obligation) to speak out against such a person. Thus, Hafetz Hayyim writes, concerning warning potential marriage partners about the inappropriateness of a particular match: 

If a person knows that the [potential] father-in-law’s household is morally corrupt (in matters of indecent sexual peritzut), he must disclose that information [to the prospective groom]. ([And in the case of the groom,] if he knows that the groom holds heretical ideals, it is certainly a mitzvah to reveal it [to the potential father-in-law]), and there is no need [to fulfill] any of the conditions stipulated above. 76 Even if he has no personal knowledge [of the vice], [knowing about it only by] hearing it from others, he must divulge it, being careful that [the formulation of his statement] does not imply that he has personal knowledge. He should simply state, “I have heard thus, and even though at present one should not absolutely believe it, nevertheless one must be concerned about it and investigate [the allegations].77 

Elsewhere, Hafetz Hayyim explains that even if the perpetrator is aware of his own wrongdoing—he specifically mentions engaging in forbidden sexual relations and eating non-kosher food—and his transgression is widely known by others, if he is an otherwise decent individual, he must be judged favorably, rebuked sensitively and privately, and presumed to have repented.78 If the transgressor rejects this rebuke, the one aware of the transgression must inform communal authorities who must then rebuke him privately as well. In these cases, the sinner is still considered “one of your people.”79 However, if the sinner is unrepentant and is unremitting in his activities, deliberately and continuously violating the same transgression, it is permissible to speak out against him publicly. Further, although in general we are obliged to judge everyone sympathetically, giving them the benefit of the doubt, this person is to be judged critically and harshly. His character and history necessitate no less. Hafetz Hayyim adds: 

And thus said our Sages, “A person shall not torment his comrade” (Lev. 25:17), [refers] to your comrade who shares Torah and observance—he should not be verbally harassed. But about one who does not obey the Word of God, it is permitted to disgrace him because of his behavior and to expose his abominations and to pour ignominy upon him. Further, [the Sages] said, “One should expose hypocrites to prevent the desecration of the Name.”80 How much more so does this apply when a person was rebuked but fails to repent, that it is permissible to reveal his sins to the larger public until he repents... but one must be careful to fulfill certain conditions...81
Those conditions are:82
  1. Personal knowledge of the ignominy, unless, based upon persistent
    rumors of impropriety, the subject has a widely accepted reputation as
    a wicked person.
  2. One has carefully evaluated whether in fact a sin has been committed.
  3. One does not exaggerate the transgression.
  4. One is motivated for a to’elet, i.e., protecting others from his harm or
    influence, and not for any personal gain or out of any personal
  5. One should be willing to make these statements publicly, unless he
    cannot do so for fear of revenge.
An abuser is excluded as one of “your people” by the very nature of his sin: one who illicitly and maliciously raises his hand against another person is designated as a wicked person83 and many acts of abuse fall are included in the category of those who are subject to niddui (banishment from the community), including one who calls another a slave (verbal and emotional abuse) and one who maintains dangerous objects or situations on his property and refuses to remove them.84 And certainly, an unrepentant and unremitting abuser is also not of “your people,” as cited above. The prohibitions of speaking, listening to or repeating lashon hara do not apply. No social obligation or protection applies to anyone who does not abide by accepted and appropriate societal norms.85 

Exposing Wrongdoing
In addition, there is a further obligation to expose wrongdoing. “One should expose hypocrites to prevent the desecration of the Name, as it is said: ‘Again, when a righteous man doth turn from righteousness and commit iniquity, I will lay a stumbling- block before him’ (Ez. 3:20).”86 This is done so that others will not learn from his acts.

It is also done in order to justify the ways of Heaven, i.e., if he is perceived as righteous and is nevertheless punished, people may question the fairness or strength of divine justice. Thus, the hypocrite needs to be exposed so that others will understand that when he is punished, he deserves it.87 Rabbeinu Yonah writes that it is a
mitzvah to publicize the wrongdoings of a person who is perpetually on a bad path and publicly scorn him so that the public will learn to be repulsed by evil deeds.88 He further rules that in the area of interpersonal matters, “in matters like theft, robbery, torts, pain, humiliation and verbal harassment, even an individual who observes the harm shall tell about it, in order to help the one who was harmed and [in order] to further truth.”89 Mahari Weil offers one caveat: if the publicity of the details of a case will harm innocent victims, that part of the investigation should remain private.90 

Lashon Hara about the Dead
Is it permissible for victims of a perpetrator who has since died to speak lashon hara about him? 

The Talmud indicates that there is no prohibition of speaking lashon hara about the dead, either because the dead do not know what is being said about them or because they do not care what is being said about them.91 However, because their legacies are at stake, as well as the reputations and well-being of their surviving families, and because they cannot defend themselves, Shulhan Arukh, Orah Hayyim 606:3 cites a takanat kadmonim (ancient enactment) that prohibits “speaking ill of the dead.”92 Hafetz Hayyim rules:

And know also that even to disparage and curse the dead is also forbidden. The decisors of Jewish law have written that there is an ancient enactment and herem (ban) against speaking ill of and defaming the dead. This applies even if the subject is an am ha-aretz (boor), and even more so if he is a Torah scholar. Certainly, one who disparages [a scholar] commits a criminal act and should be excommunicated for this, as is ruled in Yoreh De’ah 243:7. The prohibition of disparaging a Torah scholar applies even if he is disparaging him personally, and certainly if he is disparaging his teachings. 

However, despite this enactment, there are times when one is permitted to speak ill of the dead. It is important to note that this prohibition is not derived from the Torah verse banning lashon hara; it stems from a rabbinic decree and is, thus, no more stringent than the laws of lashon hara themselves. Since lashon hara which is otherwise biblically prohibited is allowed if there is a to’elet, so too lashon hara about the deceased is permitted if there is a to’elet. While the nature of the to’elet may change—after all, the deceased is no longer a threat to anyone else’s safety—there may be any number of beneficial purposes in sharing this information including: preventing others from learning inappropriate behavior, condemning such behavior, clearing one’s own reputation, seeking advice, support, and help, one’s own psychological benefit, and validating the abusive experience of others who may have felt that they, and no one else, was this man’s victim. 

Furthermore, the restriction on speaking ill of the dead may be based on the assumption that death was a kapparah, i.e., it was an atonement for sins. This atonement, however, is predicated on his having repented before his death,93 and that repentance requires both restitution for the harm caused and reconciliation with the victim.94 If the perpetrator had not reconciled with his victim, no atonement was achieved. And of such an unrepentant sinner the verse teaches, “The memory of the just is blessed; but the name of the wicked shall rot” (Proverbs 10:7).95 

In addition, Jewish law does not recognize the concept of statute of limitations in these matters.96 

When All is Said...
Lashon hara is a tool of abuse, both when derogatory speech defames innocent people, destroying their reputations, and when warnings to refrain from derogatory speech are used to silence victims of abuse who cry out for help. As careful as we must be not to speak, listen to, or repeat, disparaging information when it is forbidden, we must not allow the threat of speaking lashon hara to silence the cry of innocent victims. We must carefully heed the words of Pithei Teshuvah cited above:

There is a sin even greater than [speaking lashon hara], and one which is more widespread, i.e., the sin of refraining from informing another about a situation in which one can save him from being victimized—all out of concern for lashon hara... One who behaves in this manner, his sin is too great to bear and he violates, “You shall not stand by the blood of your brother.”97 

Victims of abuse need to speak out, for all kinds of personal reasons, in order to help themselves. Their supporters need to speak out in order to help them. And the community needs to speak out in order to hold the perpetrators responsible and in order to protect other innocents from potential harm. All must be diligent in meeting the conditions required for such speech, including knowledge of or verification of the facts, proper motivation, the curbing of personal animosities, no exaggeration, and the like. Allowances must be made for persistent rumors and circumstantial evidence when their credibility meet halakhic standards. And each of us needs to recommit ourselves to protecting the physical and spiritual welfare of women, children, and men; safeguarding the integrity of the social fabric of the Jewish community; and securing the honor of Torah and God’s very Name. 

According to rabbinic tradition, it is the capacity of speech that distinguishes humans from the animals and from all other parts of Creation. The Torah demands of us to use that divine gift of speech wisely and carefully in order to protect the human-ness of victims of abuse, as well as the humane-ness of every member of our society.


1 Teshuvot Mishneh Halakhot, XIV, no. 58. 

2 See Lev. 5:1.
3 Hil. Lashon Hara, kelal 4, Be’er Mayyim Hayyim, no. 1 citing Hil. De’ot 7:5.

4  See Hil. Lashon Hara, kelal 10 and Hil. Rekhilut, kelal 9. 
5  Semag, prohibition 213; Sefer Hareidim 24:30. 
6  Be’er Mayyim Hayyim, Hil. Lashon Hara, kelal 3:1. 
7  Teshuvot haRosh 7:7. 
8  Teshuvot Ra’anah I:111 quoting Teshuvot haRashba II:229. 
9  See Ha’amek Davar; Ha’amek She’eilah, Parashat Vayikra 68:2; Or haHayyim; Meshekh Hokhmah. 
10 Rashbam to Baba Batra 39b, s.v., u-man de’amar; Sefer HaMitzvot, neg., 297; Hinukh, mitzvah 237; Teshuvot Mishkenot Ya’akov, Hoshen Mishpat 12.

11  Hil. Rotzei’ah 1:14. See also Tur and Shulhan Arukh, Hoshen Mishpat 426:1. 
12  Kovetz He’arot, Yevamot no. 70. In applying this ruling, R. Ovadia Yosef, Teshuvot Yehaveh Da’at, IV, no. 7, obligates a physician to report to the Department of Motor Vehicles a patient afflicted with epilepsy in order to have that patient’s license suspended. He rules that this obligation to prevent harm not only overrides the prohibition of speaking negatively about another, but even supersedes the doctor-patient privilege of confidentiality.
13 Orah Hayyim, no. 156 

14 See also Hafetz Hayyim, Issurei Rekhilut, kelal 9. 15 Nidah 61a,
Said Rava, “As to slander, though one should not believe it, one should nevertheless take note of it.” There were certain Galileans who were rumored to have killed a person. They came to R. Tarfon and said to him, “Will the Master hide us?” He replied, “How should I act? Should I not hide you, [the avengers of the blood] would see you [and kill you]. Should I hide you, I would be acting contrary to the statement of the Rabbis, ‘As to slander, though one should not believe it, one should take note of it.’ Go you and hide yourselves.”
See Hafetz Hayyim, Hil. Issurei Lashon Hara 6:10.
16  See Jeremiah 39. 
17  Nidah 61a. 
18  Issues of mesirah and arka'ot are beyond the scope of this paper. Nevertheless, there is ample precedent in Jewish law to allow a victim to report her abuser to civil authorities.
19 Because the overwhelming majority of subjects of violence and abuse are female, we will refer to victims in the feminine. It must be noted, however, that men and boys are also victims of domestic violence and child abuse as well, and that their ability to deal with abuse is much harder and more complicated for a variety of sociological reasons.

20  Minhat Hinukh, mitzvah 240. 
21  Mishnah, Yoma 85b, For transgressions as between people and Godthe Day of Atonement procures atonement, but for transgressions as between one person and another, the Day of Atonement does not procure any atonement, until [the perpetrator] has appeased the victim. 
22  Shulhan Arukh, Orah Hayyim 606:1. 
23  Magen Avraham, Taz, Mishneh Brurah. 
24  Yoma 87a. See my “Forgiving the Unforgivable? Jewish Insights into Repentance and Forgiveness” in “Forgiveness and Abuse: Jewish and Christian Reflections,” Marie Fortune, Joretta L. Marshall, eds. (New York: Haworth Pastoral Press, 2002), pp. 7-24.
25  Hafetz Hayyim, Hil. Lashon Hara, kelal 10: 11. 
26  Hafetz Hayyim, Hil. Lashon Hara, kelal 10:4. 
27  Hafetz Hayyim, Hil. Lashon Hara, kelal 4:10. 
28  Hafetz Hayyim, Hil. Lashon Hara, kelal 10:31. 
29  See Berakhot5b, where Rav Huna speaks lashon hara in order to clear his name:
Once, four hundred jars of wine belonging to R. Huna turned sour. Rav Yehudah, the brother of R. Sala the Pious, and the other scholars (some say: R. Adda b. Ahavah and the other scholars) went in to visit him and said to him: The master ought to examine his actions.” (They considered this a punishment in response to some sin.) He said to them, “Am I suspect in your eyes?” They replied, “Is the Holy One, blessed be He, suspect of punishing without justice?” He said to them, “If somebody has heard of anything against me, let him speak out.” They replied, “We have heard that the master does not give his tenant his [lawful share in the] vine twigs.” He replied, “Does he leave me any? He steals them all!” They said to him: “That is exactly what the proverb says, ‘If you steal from a thief you also have a taste of it!’” He said to them, “I pledge myself to give it to him [in the future].” Some report that thereupon the vinegar became wine again; others that the vinegar went up so high that it was sold for the same price as wine.
30 Hafetz Hayyim, Hil. Lashon Hara, kelal 10:31.
31  Ketubot 69a. Hafetz Hayyim, Hil. Lashon Hara, kelal 10:13. 
32  Hafetz Hayyim, Hil. Lashon Hara, kelal 10; see also Hafetz Hayyim, Hil. Rekhilut, kelal 9.
33 The details of this statement are beyond the scope of this paper, and will be dealt with elsewhere. See, for example, Sanhedrin 56a: Resh Lakish said: One who lifts his hand against his neighbor, even if he did not smite him, is called a wicked man as it is written, “And he said unto the wicked man, ‘Why would you smite your fellow?’” (Ex. 2:13) “Why did you smite?” is not said, but ‘Why would you smite,” showing that though he had not yet hit him, he was termed a wicked man. Ze'iri said in R. Hanina's name: He is called a sinner, for it is written, “But if not, I will take it by force;” (I Samuel 2:16)33 and it is further written, “And the sin of the young men was very great before the Lord.” (2:17)

34  Hafetz Hayyim, Hil. Lashon Hara, kelal 10:8. 
35  Be’er Mayyim Hayyim, Hil. Rekhilut, kelal 9, no. 28, hagah”h.
36  Shabbat 4a. 
37  See Gershon Robinson, Sefer Tokhahat Hayyim Be-inyan Lashon Hara Le-to’elet (B’nei Brak, 5757), pp. 31-33. 

38  Hil. Eidut 15:13; Hoshen Mishpat 33:1. 
39  Pithei Teshuvah, Hoshen Mishpat 33, no. 2 cites a number of sources including Teshuvot Ha-Geonim, Shaarei Zedek, helek 4, sha’ar 7, no. 42. See also Teshuvot Tashbetz Katan, no. 569.
40 Mahashal, Responsa 33,
41 See also Hil. Eidut 16:4. Maharshal’s argument disqualifying an enemy is based on the rhetorical comment of the Talmud, Makkot 6a, that seeks to find reasons to acquit an accused and prevent him from receiving the death penalty: “let the very presence of the murdered man himself [at the murder] save [the murderer from the death penalty]?” In other words, all who see a crime as it is being committed are considered witnesses. The presence of any invalid witness invalidates the entire group. Therefore, the presence of the victim, who is an invalid witness because he certainly hates his murderer, undermines the legitimate testimony required to put his murderer to death. See Tosafot, s.v. ela mei- attah harog yazil.
42 Teshuvot Maharit, II, Hoshen Mishpat no. 80 based on Sanhedrin 10a.
43 See also Tumim, no. 2.

44  Be’er Mayyim Hayyim, Hafetz Hayyim, Hil. Issueri Rekhilut , kelal 9, no. 3. 
45  Sha’arei Teshuvah, sha’ar shelishi, no. 221. 
46  Be’er Mayyim Hayyim, Hil. Issurei Rekhilut kelal 9, no 9. 
47  Hafetz Hayyim, Hil. Lashon Hara, kelal 10; see also Hafetz Hayyim, Hil. Rekhilut, kelal 9.

48 Hafetz Hayyim, Hil. Issurei Rekhilut, Tziyyurim 3:11. 49 See Bava Mezi’a 58b:
Our Rabbis taught: “You shall not wrong one another (Lev.25:17),” Scripture refers to verbal wrongs. You say [that this refers to] “verbal wrongs,” but perhaps that is not so, and it refers to monetary wrongs? When it is said, “And if thou sell anything unto thy neighbor, or acquire anything from your neighbor [you shall not wrong one another] (Lev.25:14),” [that refers to] monetary wrongs. To what then does, “You shall not wrong one another” apply. To verbal wrongs. E.g., If a man is a penitent, one must not say to him, ‘Remember your former deeds.’ If he is the son of proselytes he must not be taunted with, ‘Remember the deeds of your ancestors. If he is a proselyte and comes to study the Torah, one must not say to him, ‘Shall the mouth that ate unclean and forbidden food, abominable and creeping things, come to study the Torah which was uttered by the mouth of God!’ If he is visited by suffering, afflicted with disease, or has buried his children, one must not speak to him as his companions spoke to Job... If donkey drivers sought grain from a person, he must not say to them, ‘Go to so and so who sells grain,’ surely knowing that he has never sold any... R. Yohanan said on the authority of R. Shimon b. Yohai: Verbal wrong is more heinous than monetary wrong, because of [verbal wrong] it is written, “and you shall fear your God,” but not of the [monetary wrong]. R. Eleazar said: The one affects his [the victim's] person, the other [only] his money. R. Samuel b. Nahmani said: For the former restoration is possible, but not for the latter.

50 Shabbat 56b.
51 Rema, Hoshen Mishpat 35:14.
52 Rema, Yoreh De'ah 334:43 quoting Maharik, shoresh 120.
53 Rashi s.v. desani shomanei.
54 Sanhedrin 31a.
55 Teshuvot Ritva, no. 206 quoted by Bet Yosef, Hosen Mishpat 290.
56 Teshuvot Ramatz, Orah Hayyim no. 15 quoted in Piskei Din Rabbaniyim, helek 5, p. 27.
57 Kiddushin 81a; Hil. Sanhedrin 24:5. Ritva to Kiddushin 81a,
A person whose reputation is bad concerning [accused of] inappropriate sexual activity and the like, and there is circumstantial evidence (raglayim la-davar) or persistent rumors (kola de-lo pasik), is lashed with lashes of rebellion because he violated that which is written, concerning the sons of Eli, “No, my sons; it is not a good report what I hear” (I Samuel 2:24).
58 Rema, Yoreh De'ah 334:43 quoting Maharik, shoresh 120.
59 See Rashi, s.v., devarim ha-nikarim haza beih. See Tosafot Yesheinim to Yoma 22b and Sefat Emet to Shabbat 56a for a different explanation.
60 Shabbat 56a-b; Hafetz Hayyim, Hil. Lashon Hara, kelal 7:10-11; Shulhan Arukh ha- Rav, Orah Hayyim 156:10. 
61  See Yoreh De’ah 246:8. 
62  See, however, Hagigah 15b:  But how did R. Meir learn Torah at the mouth of Aher (even after his teacher, R. Elisha b. Avuya, became an apostate)? ...Resh Lakish answered: “R. Meir found a verse and expounded it [as follows]: ‘Incline your ear, and hear the words of the wise, and apply your heart unto my knowledge (Prov. 22:17).’ It does not say, ‘unto their knowledge,’ but ‘unto my knowledge.’ (Thus R. Meir could learn knowledge from Aher, provided he did not imitate his deeds.)” R. Hanina said, “[He decided it] from here, ‘Hearken, O daughter, and consider, and incline your ear; forget also your own people, and thy father's house, etc.’ (Ps. 45:11, i.e., listen to the words of the wise, but forget their actions, if they are wicked.)” The verses (the one just quoted and the verse in Malakhi 2:7) contradict one another! There is no contradiction: in the one case Scripture refers to an adult (who can discriminate and avoid the teacher's wrongdoing; thus, the last two verses permit him to learn even from a heretic); in the other to a child. When R. Dimi came [to Babylonia] he said: “In the West (Israel) they say: “R. Meir ate the date and threw the kernel away.”
63 Mishneh Berurah, no. 78, quoting Yam Shel Shelomo, Hullin, no. 52; Bi’ur Halakhah s.v. im ba’u alav eidim quoting Bi’ur haGr”a who cites Gittin 89a and Ketubot 36b and Teshuvot Hatam Sofer, no. 11; Hafetz Hayyim, Issurei Rekhilut, he’arot ve-hashmatot, kelal 7 quoting Magen Avraham 53:7, Mahzit haShekel, Pri Megadim, no. 29.
64  Mo’ed Katan 18b. 
65  Mo’ed Katan 18b. 
66  Mo’ed Katan 18b. 
67  Be’er Mayyim Hayyim, Hil. Lashon Hara, kelal 7, no. 3. Note that Rashi describes the disparaging reports as pertaining to events that are presently occurring.
68 See I Kings 22:26.
69  See Sotah 48a. 
70  Berakhot 19b. 
71  Arakhin 16a. 

72  Hafetz Hayyim, Hil. Lashon Hara, kelal 2:2. 
73  Tosafot, Arakhin 16a, s.v. kol milta de-itamra. 
74  Hafetz Hayyim, Hil. Lashon Hara, kelal 2:10.
75  See, for example, Yevamot 22b and Bava Kama 92b. 
76  See, however, Hafetz Hayyim, Hil. Issurei Lashon Hara 8:5-6. However, due to the
extreme consequences and influences of such behavior, Hafetz Hayyim modified his position and allows for immediate reaction even without absolute verification.
77  Hafetz Hayyim, Hil. Issurei Rekhilut, Tziyyurim 3:11. 
78  Hafetz Hayyim, Hil. Issurei Lashon Hara, kelal 4:4. 
79  Hafetz Hayyim, Hil. Issurei Lashon Hara, kelal 4:5. 

80  Yoma 86b 
81  Hafetz Hayyim, Hil. Issurei Lashon Hara, kelal 4:7. See Teshuvot Radakh, no. 7. 
82  Be'er Mayyim Hayyim, Hil. Lashon Hara, kelal 4:32. 
83  Sanhedrin 56a:  Resh Lakish said: One who lifts his hand against his neighbor, even if he did not smite him, is called a wicked man as it is written, “And he said unto the wicked man, ‘Why would you smite your fellow?’” (Ex. 2:13) “Why did you smite?” is not said, but ‘Why would you smite,”showing that though he had not yet smitten him, he was termed a wicked man. Ze'iri said in R. Hanina's name: He is called a sinner, for it is written, “But if not, I will take it by force;” (I Samuel 2:16)83 and it is further written, “And the sin of the young men was very great before the Lord.” (2:17) 
84  Hil. Talmud Torah 3:16; Yoreh De'ah 334:43. 
85  Sema to Hoshen Mishpat 228:4. 

86  Yoma 86a. See Hil De’ot 6:8. 
87  Midrash Tehilim (Buber), mizmor 52:3. 
88  Sha'arei Teshuvah, sha'ar 3, no. 218. See Nimukei Yosef to Bava Mezi’a, p. 32b; Rema, Hoshen Mishpat 228:1.
89 Sha'arei Teshuvah, sha'ar 3, no. 218, no. 221. 
90 Teshuvot Mahari Weil, no. 173.  
91 Berakhot 19a : Rabbi Yizhak said: If one makes remarks about the dead, it is like making remarks about a stone. Some say [the reason is that] they do not know, others that they know but do not care. Can that be so? Has not R. Papa said: A certain man made derogatory remarks about Mar Samuel and a log fell from the roof and broke his skull? A Rabbinical student is different, because the Holy One, blessed be He, avenges his insult. 
92 See Mordekhai to Bava Kama, nos. 82 and 106. 

93  Yoma 85b; See Sha’arei Teshuvah 4:20. 
94  See Bava Mezi’a 62b. 
95  See Yoma 38b. 
96  See Sanhedrin 31a and Hoshen Mishpat 98:1.

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