Showing posts with label ultra-orthodox. Show all posts
Showing posts with label ultra-orthodox. Show all posts

Sunday, March 09, 2014

Rabbi takes up the battle against / Rabbiner tager Kampen op mod

Rabbi takes up the battle against
Pedophilia : After sex offenders in the Catholic Church the turn of the ultra- Orthodox Jews . A rabbi in New York has made it his mission to expose pedophiles.
By Jorgen Ullerup
Jyllands-Posten  - March 9, 2014

(Translation from Dutch to English by Google.  Entire article in Danish is below the English translation.)


NEW YORK –– Nuchem Rosenberg meets with us in kosher restaurant Manhattan near the Williamsburg Bridge.  He dare not meet us on the other side.

Williamsburg, Brooklyn is home to a large part of New York City's 250,000 ultra-orthodox Jews.  This hasidic rabbi (Nuchem Rosenberg) is ostracized by his religion and is banned in all the district's synagogues and religious schools.  

Since the beginning of the new millennium, Rabbi Rosenberg's war against widespread pedophilia (in the hasidic world) began, particularly in religious schools and ritual baths, called mikvah.  Rosenberg is a tall man dressed in black and white, with an unruly, gray beard.  He has receives death threats, and on one occasion even shot, when a bullet grazed his forehead.

"Last year, a man tapped me on the shoulder and threw a glass filled with bleach in my eyes.  They trained and behave like dogs."

"The attack took place shortly after conviction of Nechemya Weberman, who was a prominent ultra-orthodox Jew, who worked as an unlicensed school psychologist.  Back in January, 2013, Weberman was sentenced to 103 years prison, for abusing 12-year-old girl who came to him for spiritual counseling.

The Weberman survivor who is now married and was one of the few who dared to come forward.  Most others prefer to remain silent then to sacrifice their children to life where they would be seen as pariahs. So effective are some of the ultra-Orthodox community leaders attempts to intimidate victims from testifying, Brooklyn's now former District Attorney, Charles Hynes compared them with gangsters in the urban criminal underworld .

According to Rosenberg, the case against Weberman was just one of the many symptoms that his campaign to end sexual abuse in his community is starting to work.  But also showed that the religious leaders of the insulated community is still cohesive enough that they prefer to pay expensive lawyers to protect alleged sex offenders, instead of helping the victims. Rosenberg describes a mafia like system in which rabbis make money on pedophilia.  Community members are told to go to their local rabbi, when they suspect there's a pedophile, instead of going to the police so that way charges are not pressed against them.  Instead the alleged offender is pushed to pay compensation, often in excess of $100,000 to the rabbi. 

Due to statute of limitation issues, criminal charges and civil suits will become outdate.  Instead of the criminal justice system being involved, members of an internal religious police get involved, whose task is to defend morality of the hasidic lifestyle. 

The money collected from the alleged offender goes to the rabbis and not to the victim, with whom are threatened into silence.

"It 's all about money.  My goal is to destroyed their business and their reputation. That is why  I was excluded by a council of 38 rabbis, of which 11 are known as top pediophile, "
says Rosenberg .

Rosenberg will save boys like Joel Engelman.   The now 28-year-old youngest member of a family of seven children, left religion and moved away from Williamsburg eight years ago.    Engelman was sexually abused by the inspector his school . Shame and guilt caused him to be quiet, until he was 18 years old, when told his parents about the abuse.  In particular, received support from his mother. When he age of 22 complained to school.  When he negotiated to get the pedophile teacher removed from his school.  "But only for two months.  As I turned 23 years old, and my case was barred under the laws of the state of New York, and then he was rehired . So I was disappointed and regret that I did not go to the police," says Engelman . "I know for sure that he has abused other children . But it is not unusual that he has not been convicted.   I believe it's only 1 per cent of sexual predators are convicted in closed communities, where community leaders will make do everything possible to avoid sex offender from being reported to the police.'

While Engelman is convinced that the ultra-Orthodox Jews still lags far behind for other religious communities in the fight against pedophilia, describes Rabbi Rosenberg scandals in the Catholic church as a catalyst for the information about the problem.

Several cases in the ultra-Orthodox Jewish community are reported.  Today, the police and the media about the problem maintains pressure on the rabbis.  Although Rosenberg has created a hotline , which is heard by thousands of listeners.

"It is slow, but we winner.  We receive 3 to 4 new complaints per month.  Over 20 pedophile has been convicted in the past year and a half, at least hundred other defendants are waiting their judgment , "he said. 

There are no precise statistics on the extent problem in the ultra-orthodox world, but according to the psychotherapist Vicki Polin shows all the science that figures similar to those of the rest of the society.

"Pedophilia has no religion.  It is not much different among ultra-Orthodox Jews than in the Catholic Church, amongst Mormons, Amish or any other faith based group, "says Vicki Polin .

Polin established The Awareness Center 15 years ago, to focus on pedophilia in Jewish Communities. The organization's website includes a sex offender registry of alleged and convicted sex offenders, which includes names and photographs.

As a non-practicing Jew, Polin often is blamed for spread anti-Semitism with her work.  It is of course a risk , she recognizes, but it can not be a reason for to close your eyes . "I lived within the ultra-orthodox Jewish community of Baltimore for just under 10 years, where there was also a huge problem with sexual abuse.  

Because of the nature of my work, I was threatened, people spit on me, spat on me and once had someone brake into my office to steal files, along with having death threats.

For nearly a two year period, approximately every six months, I was involved in serious car accident.   In the end I realized it was just too dangerous, so four years ago I moved back home to Chicago, " she says.  

Sexual abuse leaves a wake of suicide and drug use among victims. Many are turning their backs to religion, because the price of making accusations is an enormous.

"If a female survivor comes forward with a complaints, the retaliation against her is much more severe, not only does her family face being excommunicated, she will have extreme difficulties finding a suitable marriage partner.  This is a major issue for a young women where your status as an adult depends on their husband," says Polin 

Rosenberg says that quietly, more and more rabbis are supporting.  

The RCA (Rabbinical Council of America), the world's largest organization of Orthodox rabbis , has called on all Jews to cooperate with police in cases of sexual abuse .

The problem is that they do not have influence on the hasidic rabbis in Williamsburg.   Rabbi David Zwiebel, vice president of the ultra-Orthodox organization Agudath Israel of America, says the problem taken seriously and that rules have been tightened for schools and camps.  In a written response he must accompany a declaration with guidance as to when ultra-orthodox Jews can go to the police.  

"Where there is reason to believe that a child has been abused, it must be reported to the authorities," says that in the guideline, but with an addition of, that in the end, it is up to the rabbis to define "a good reason". "It is a total nonsense. They destroy our religion and distorts Torah are in the same way as Islamists distort the Koran," corresponds Nuchem Rosenberg .

Victim of child abuse Abe Weiss left the orthodox Judaism after being sexual abuse as a child.   Recently his girlfriend committed suicide.

First there was the pain, blood and shame.  It was nothing compared to the reaction of the family.

When Abe Weiss first told his father about the repeated rapes as a boy, the response was a slap and a message to never talk about it again.  It was the worst day of Abe's life.  He knew that he was alone, and that nobody would protect him.

"I was 12 years old, the oldest of seven children and went in a ultra-Orthodox school in Williamsburg.

I was often beatings of my teacher and I thought that he probably knew best. Physical punishment was normal in my school, and I had certainly earned it," says Abe Weiss.

"But one day he took me into the school's boiler room, took off our trousers down, on both himself and me and began raping me. When he was finished, he went back to class." 

I was repeatedly assaulted six to seven times during the rest of that school year.  

As an adult, Abe Weiss discovered that the teacher still taught little boys, so he asked for a meeting with the chief rabbi of New Square, and shared his abuse history.  

"He is a shaigetz," replied rabbi (a derogatory word for a non- jew), "get him out of here." 

Abe Weiss turned his back on his Judaism, he left his family and moved to New Jersey.  He is now 39-years-old and has not had any contact with his family over 20 years.

"Sexual assault on children is a huge problem in Williamsburg and far worse than the statistics", says Weiss.  "The majority of my friends were abused  but no one in the our community talking about it."

There has been little improvements, yet  still there are no background checks made on teachers or others who have contact with children, needless to say sex offenders have free rein. "



Girlfriend committed suicide
All the demons from the nightmare returned,  Abe said as he began to talk about his case
for two or three years ago.  Together with other young adult renegades, all of whom are former Orthodox Jews have come together in organizations as Footsteps.  Within that group Weiss was a group of people who tried to organize protests .

But it was so overwhelming that he himself attempted to commit suicide.

"I have several friends who have tried to commit suicide, or who are now dead.  They could not live with what has happened, and the Community supports sex offenders instead of victim."

Tragedy struck again Abe Weiss on September 27, 2013, when his girlfriend, Deborah Tambor , committed suicide.   Tambor grew up in the ultra-Orthodox New Square, which is located in northern New York

The cult-like Jewish village is one of the most closed societies in the United States .  Women and men use separate sidewalks, and women are ordered not to drive cars, by order of the chief rabbi. 

According to Abe Weiss, Deborah was sexually abused by one of her uncles, but the matter was hushed up .  

Tambor was married and had two children, but when she later divorced , she was denied access to his children, and that's what struck her out

When Abe Weiss and 40 others former members of the ultra-orthodox sect met up to the funeral, they were rejected.  In shame that it was a suicide, buried family Deborah in a cemetery far from the village.

"People in this community live in a reign of terror, where the children victims, this is also for this same reason the abuse can continue.  To leave this community means you will loose custody of your children", says Abe Weiss.

According to the 2012 censes bureau, there are 5,425,000 Jews in United States.  Around 1.75 million Jews in the New York area and 250,000 are considered ultra-orthodox Hasidic Jews, which is considered to be largest ultra-Orthodox concentration outside Israel.  They live by the age-old traditions and protect themselves against external influences.

Headed by rabbis, which many retains an old prohibition of "mesirah" that specify that a jew not allowed to go to non-Jewish authority.

The sexes in the ultra- Orthodox communities are separated and discussion of sex or sexual learning is taboo.

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ORIGINAL DANISH ARTICLE

Rabbiner tager Kampen op mod
By Jorgen Ullerup
Jyllands-Posten  - March 9, 2014





Saturday, November 10, 2012

A House Of Prostitution That An Ex-Haredi Opened In Shmuel Hanavi Has Turned Into A Hit For

A Haredi Neighborhood in Jerusalem
A House Of Prostitution That An Ex-Haredi Opened In Shmuel Hanavi Has Turned Into A Hit For The Sector's Marginal Youth.

Amichai Atali • Ma’ariv
(See original article in hebrew below)


An ex-haredi established a brothel in the heart of the Shmuel Hanavi neighborhood of Jerusalem, which has quickly become a hit among the sector's youth. Two years ago the first chapter in the story of M. was published in Maariv, then a haredi woman married and a mother to ten children. The husband wanted to work to support his children and in the framework of his job encountered A., a Palestinian from Nablus, and never imagined that his new friend would turn his life into a nightmare.

The husband, who was very occupied with his work, did not notice that A. became too close to his haredi wife. M. got so close to the Palestinian friend that at a certain stage she decided to leave home with him and seven of her children, and according to her husband's claims, made her income by transporting illegal Palestinians.

After a drawn out legal battle the couple divorced, and another legal struggle directed by the husband, with the assistance of lawyer Gila Naftalin of Jerusalem, led to the removal of the seven children from M. and their deposit in foster care.

However, it seems that M., who already crossed all boundaries accepted in the haredi society, decided to continue in her unconventional ways.

A Haven for Those Falling out of the Framework

A few months ago, after she had been living for quite a while with her Palestinian partner in Nablus, M. returned to reside in the house that belonged to her and her husband in the haredi neighborhood of Shmuel Hanavi in Jerusalem. Externally, M. appeared Haredi in every way, and despite her divorce she continued to wear a wig. However, soon rumors began spreading in the neighborhood, according to which the woman had turned [her home] into a social center for a group of male and female youths who had dropped out of the haredi society.

The group would meet nightly in M.'s apartment, and she would supply them with sexual services in exchange for payment.

"Suddenly all sorts of young riffraff, haredi boys and girls that dropped out of the framework," a haredi resident of the neighborhood told Maariv. "All the dropout girls and boys simply started to go to her house and have orgies. Within a short time two of the haredi girls became M.'s partners and began to serve as prostitutes themselves. The clientele at the apartment was diverse and included ex-haredim, haredi, Arab Israelis and illegal Palestinians."

The Haredi neighbors who understood what was going on nearby decided to hastily gouge out the filth that had sprung up under their noses. Customers that arrived at the apartment returned to their vehicles and found their tires slashed, and the tires of M.'s vehicle were also slashed many times.

When the neighbors saw that the tire-slashing was not helping, they started to hold shifts across from the apartment whose purpose was to prevent anyone not living in the vicinity to enter M.'s building.

The Neighborhood Was Coated In Pashkevilim

By now, two protests had been held adjacent to the apartment. The loaded subject caused the two protests to be especially stormy, and they both ended with the arrival of police to the area and with arrests.

Haredi rabbis then entered the picture as well, and the neighborhood was coated with pashkevilim [wall posters] which read:

"With great pain in our hearts we hereby cry out greatly over the evil murmurings that have reached our ears that amidst our holy neighborhood  of Shmuel Hanavi a private home in a residential building has become a place of wanton lasciviousness that has destroyed many souls.” In the  notice the rabbis warned: “The masses are hereby notified that it is forbidden by Da’at Torah [rabbinic instruction] and halakha [Jewish law] to come near the entrance of her house at all, and the parents shall carefully watch their children in order that they not find them in the middle of the lasciviousness."

"Never has it happened that those who have stopped being haredi bring their pernicious matters into a haredi neighborhood," a resident of the neighborhood said. "We intend to do everything in order to stop this abomination."


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בית בושת הוקם בלב שכונה חרדית בירושלים

מכון ליווי שפתחה חרדית לשעבר בשמואל הנביא הפך ללהיט בקרב נוער השוליים של המגזר. כעת מופצים פשקווילים לסילוק המטרד

עמיחי אתאלי
http://www.nrg.co.il/online/1/ART2/414/458.html?hp=1&cat=402&loc=50

חרדית לשעבר הקימה בלב השכונה החרדית שמואל הנביא בירושלים בית בושת, שהפך במהרה ללהיט בקרב פרחחי המגזר. לפני שנתיים פורסם ב"מעריב" הפרק הראשון בסיפורה של מ', אז אישה חרדית נשואה ואם לעשרה ילדים. הבעל שיצא לעבוד כדי לפרנס את ילדיו ואת אשתו הכיר במסגרת עבודתו את ע', פלסטיני משכם, ולא תיאר לעצמו שהחבר החדש יהפוך את חייו לסיוט.


"נאבקים נגד השיקוץ". בית הבושת בשמואל הנביא צילום: אורי לנץ
 
הבעל, שהיה עסוק מאוד בעבודתו, לא הבחין שע' התקרב לאשתו החרדית יותר מדי. מ' התקרבה כל כך לחבר הפלסטיני של בעלה עד שבשלב מסוים החליטה לעזוב את הבית איתו ועם שבעה מילדיה, ולפי טענת בעלה, עסקה לפרנסתה בהסעת שוהים בלתי חוקיים פלסטינים.

לאחר מערכה משפטית ממושכת התגרשו בני הזוג, ומאבק משפטי נוסף שניהל הבעל, בסיוע עורכת הדין גילה נפתלין מירושלים, הביא להוצאתם של שבעה  מהילדים מידי מ' ומסירתם לאומנה.
אולם מתברר שמ', שכבר חצתה את כל הגבולות המקובלים בחברה החרדית, החליטה להמשיך בדרכה הלא שגרתית.
מקום מפלט ליוצאים מן המסגרת
לפני כמה חודשים, לאחר שהתגוררה במשך זמן מה עם בן זוגה הפלסטיני בשכם, חזרה מ' להתגורר בבית שהיה שייך לה ולבעלה בשכונה החרדית שמואל הנביא בירושלים. כלפי חוץ מ' נראתה כחרדית לכל דבר ולמרות גירושיה המשיכה לחבוש פאה. אולם במהרה החלו להתרוצץ בשכונה שמועות, שלפיהן האישה הפכה למרכז החברתי של קבוצת צעירים וצעירות שנפלטו מהחברה החרדית.

הקבוצה הייתה נפגשת מדי לילה בדירתה של מ', וזו הייתה מספקת להם שירותי מין תמורת תשלום.
"פתאום התחילו להסתובב לידה כל מיני צעירים צ'חצ'חים, בנים ובנות חרדים שנפלטו מהמסגרת", סיפר למעריב חרדי תושב השכונה. "כל הבחורות והבחורים

הנפלטים פשוט התחילו ללכת אליה הביתה ולעשות חגיגות של זנות".

בתוך זמן קצר הפכו שתיים מהנערות החרדיות לשותפותיה של מ' והחלו לשמש בעצמן כזונות. קהל הלקוחות בדירה היה מגוון וכלל חרדים לשעבר, חרדים בהווה, ערבים ישראלים ושב"חים פלסטינים".
השכנים החרדים שהבינו מה מתרחש בסמוך החליטו לגדוע במהירות את השיקוץ שקם מתחת לאפם. לקוחות שהגיעו לדירה חזרו לרכביהם ומצאו את הצמיגים מנוקבים, וגם צמיגי רכבה של מ' נוקבו כמה פעמים.

משראו השכנים כי ניקוב הצמיגים אינו עוזר, החלו לקיים מול הדירה משמרות שמטרתן הייתה למנוע מכל אדם שאינו מתגורר באזור להיכנס לבניין של מ'.

השכונה הוצפה פקשקווילים
עד כה התקיימו מתחת לדירה שתי הפגנות, שבהן השתתפו מאות בני אדם, בקריאה לסלק את האישה מהשכונה. הנושא הטעון גרם לשתי ההפגנות להיות סוערות במיוחד, ושתיהן הסתיימו בהגעה של כוחות משטרה לאזור ובמעצרים.

רבנים חרדים נכנסו גם הם לתמונה, והשכונה הוצפה בפשקווילים שבהם נכתב: "בצער לבנו הגדול הננו לבוא בזעקה גדולה על שמועה רעה אשר הגיעה לאוזנינו שבתוככי שכונתנו הקדושה שמואל הנביא, נהפך בית פרטי בבניין מגורים למקום פרצה חמורה שרבים חללים הפילה". בהודעה הזהירו הרבנים: "יידעו הרבים כי על פי דעת תורה והלכה אסור להתקרב לפתח ביתה כלל וישמרו מאוד ההורים את הילדים שלא יימצאו בקרבת הפרצה".

"מעולם לא קרה שאנשים שמפסיקים להיות חרדים מביאים את הגועל נפש שלהם לתוך שכונה חרדית", אמר תושב השכונה. "אנחנו מתכוונים לעשות הכל כדי להפסיק את התועבה הזו". 

Monday, October 22, 2012

Are Some Ultra-Orthodox Jewish Kiruv Organizations Feeder Groups For Cults?

By Vicki Polin
The Examiner - October 22, 2012

Are some kiruv organizations cult connected?
The majority of Shabbatons offered by non-cult like groups are amazing experiences. Over the years I’ve been to a few that were both cult and non-cult like. Going to a legitimate shabbaton is like going to a “spa for your soul”. A shabbaton is a weekend retreat over the Jewish sabbath, created for those who are wishing to learn more about Torah based Judaism.

I’ll admit that during cult like shabbatons I was aware of some of the manipulative techniques that were being utilized, yet I found myself dismissing my thoughts and feelings about what was being said and done. I was aware that these cult-like groups were using shabbos as a way to lure in secular Jews for their own personal gain. The truth is there’s a lot of money to be made off of someone becoming orthodox. Between the cost of providing the needed education, the purchases to create a kosher home and maintaining it, the purchase of religious artifacts, and –– a lot of costs are involved. As well, if someone is a devotee, they will show their thanks by making donations to the cult-like institution for years to come.  CLICK HERE TO READ MORE

Saturday, July 14, 2012

Pursued: A documentary about sexual abuse in an ultra-orthodox Jewish boarding school

Pursued (2012) Trailer HD An unsettling relationship unfolds when the director confronts the man who sexually abused him while attending an ultra-Orthodox boarding school. As an adolescent attending an all-male, ultra-Orthodox boarding school, director Menachem Roth was the victim of sexual abuse. Twenty years later he confronts his abuser, documenting their disturbing relationship. Simultaneously, the director must choose between religious and secular life-styles, and between parallel romantic relationships. The end product is a courageous self-portrait, where the camera becomes a weapon of entrapment as well as an instrument of redemption.

Tuesday, July 03, 2012

Case of Sholom Eichler

New York Post July 3, 2012

Survivor/Activist Chaim Levin
An Orthodox Jewish gay activist and blogger sued his cousin yesterday for allegedly preying on him for several years at a synagogue and at the relative’s home.

Chaim Levin, raised ultra-Orthodox, contends in a Brooklyn Supreme Court civil lawsuit that he was the victim of sexual abuse by Sholom Eichler, whose family owns a prominent Judaica store.

Levin claims in court papers that Eichler assaulted him on a weekly basis from 1996 to 1999, starting when he was 6 years old.

The suit, which seeks unspecified monetary damages, says most of the abuse occurred at the home of Eichler and his parents, as well as at a synagogue to which both families belonged.

The suit comes as sex-abuse cases involving Brooklyn ultra-Orthodox Jews continue to make headlines, with prosecutors blaming pressure from the community for keeping victims from coming forward.

Eichler, who did not return calls, works for his family-run business.

Levin said he took his allegations to prosecutors last year, but no action was taken.

A spokesman for the Brooklyn DA’s Office said he could not confirm that.

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Orthodox Activist Sues Over Alleged Abuse

By Simi Lampert

Forward - July 03, 2012

Eichler's Judaica Store, Brooklyn, NY
Orthodox gay activist Chaim Levin is reportedly suing a cousin for abusing him over a period of three years, starting when he was just six years old.

Levin charges that his cousin Sholom Eichler, whose family owns a famed Brooklyn Judaica store, molested him in a synagogue and at Eichler’s home, the New York Post reported.

The lawsuit began July 2 in a Brooklyn court, the paper said.

Neither Eichler, who works for the store, nor his family could be reached for comment.

Levin claims he took his allegations to prosecutors last year, but no action was taken against Eichler. A spokesman for the Brooklyn District Attorney’s Office said he could not confirm that claim, the paper said.

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Gay Activist Accuses Orthodox Jewish Cousin of Childhood Sexual Abuse

QueerTY - July 4, 2012

Activist/Survivor - Chaim Levin

Gay Jewish blogger Chaim Levin, 22, has filed suit in Brooklyn against his cousin, Sholom Eichler, accusing the older relative of molesting him over a three year period starting in 1996, when Levin was just 6.  In the complaint, Levin claims the abuse occurred at the Eichler home, as well as at a synagogue both families were members of.

Eichler, who is in his late 20s, now works as a website manager for his family’s Judaica store.

Levin, who was raised in Crown Heights Hasidic community, runs the blog, Gotta Give ‘Em Hope, and has spoken openly about his horrifying experiences with Jewish reparative-therapy groups. He claims he went to authorities to file criminal charges against Eichler last year but that nothing was done.

Several cases of abuse and molestation among Brooklyn’s Orthodox Jews have made headlines in recent years, owing in part to the fact that the close-knit religious community is so mistrustful of outsiders. Some leaders have even demanded that a victim must speak to their rabbi before going public with accusations.

Below, Levin and other openly gay Jews raised in Orthodox families speak about their experiences in an It Gets Better video.


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When I Lost Hope: Levin v. Eichler
By Chaim Levin
Gotta give'em hope (blog) - November 19, 2012


Early this past July, I filed a lawsuit against Sholom Eichler, a first cousin who sexually abused me for four years starting when I was 6. From the day the abuse began until last year, I hadn’t felt confident, strong or ready to attempt to pursue justice and hold Eichler accountable for what he did to me. I was afraid. The people I counted on to protect and help me when I was young only fed that fear, allowing it to grow. I had confided in my school principal, Rabbi Lustig of Oholei Torah, when I was 14 and the years of secret pain were too much to bear alone. Rabbi Lustig advised my parents not to create “a family fight” by confronting Eichler or his parents and strongly urged them not to say anything. Consequently, Eichler remained a welcome presence in my parents’ home for the rest of my youth, and my family celebrated his wedding despite knowing that he brutally abused and molested me for four years of my childhood four years that I’ll never get back, four years that I live with everyday of my life.

It’s been difficult. And, forgiving my family and the caregivers who betrayed me is no easy thing. Yet, I am grateful to most of my immediate family members for their support that, although it came late, did still come.I have been lucky to have the unwavering support of my parents and siblings throughout the journey the past few years has taken me on. My parents stand proudly behind me and support me in the work that I do the cause I believe in and live for. They accept me completely as I am; my orientation is just another inherent aspect little different from the color of my eyes or my skin tone. Everyday, I hear from people whose families reject them, sometimes even disowning them, just because they’re gay. I had truly believed and feared that my family would never come around, but I was wrong. They have arrived, and I couldn’t be more proud to call them my family, my blood. They have been there for me as I have tried to pursue justice. 

Before filing a lawsuit against Eichler, I attempted to envision the different scenarios that might result, but I was not prepared for what ensued. Many people sympathized with Eichler and recast the traumatic abuse as just “two kids fooling around,” others called the lawsuit a ploy for attention, and some even had the audacity simply to feed into the denial all too commonly surrounding abuse, dismissing what had happened to me with assertion that Eichler is “family man” incapable of the horrific crimes he committed against me, my body and my mind. It had taken years for me to regain some sort of wholeness with which I could try to move forward, and the negative reactions to the lawsuit challenged that.  

And, I lost hope. I had to take a step back. I had lost my way. I have spent the last few months trying to figure out my place, where I belong and what I want to do in the future. I have also done as much I can to begin to heal from the childhood trauma that I endured. I had lost the confidence that was so hard to build. I lost my drive. I was disappointed and angry with many people; it was truly horrifying for me to hear anyone try defending the likes of Eichler despite what was known. So many people were focused on “Jewish gay activist sues cousin for sexual abuse” that the story was lost. It was a headline that told them all that they thought they needed to know. It was a headline that allowed them to conclude that the abuse I experienced at the hands of Eichler must have been consensual despite his being six years older because I proudly identify as a gay man and had not told anyone while the abuse occurred. It was a headline that allowed people to continue to ignore abuse and to blame and dismiss survivors. The misguided conclusions people made about me and what had happened to me were far from reality; still, they were a source of pain.

While I don’t feel the need to defend my choice in taking actions against someone that hurt me, I do think it’s important to address some matters before other abuse survivors’ motives are questioned and they are harmed in the process. Eichler may have been a minor at the time of the abuse, but I was a child; I couldn’t consent, and I didn’t have a choice. Eichler exploited my vulnerability in feeling different and inferior, which made me a perfect target for a predator. He once told me that he had to be mean to me in public so that no one caught on to “our” secret. Eichler sexually, physically and mentally abused me. He devised elaborate strategies to isolate and intimidate me and to lure me away to commit unspeakable acts. Even after Eichler sodomized me with a pen when he became frustrated with my small, unaccommodating, fragile, eight year old anatomy, I was still too afraid to tell anyone. Like many other survivors, I was afraid and ashamed. That was why I kept it a secret for as long as I did, but when I was more able to understand what had happened I reached out for help. 

My principal, family and community’s reaction are examples of what fed and continues to feed the pernicious silence that creates an environment conducive to abuse and that revictimizes survivors. I reached out again to my former principal upon retaining my lawyers, but he refused to cooperate, claiming that it was against Jewish law for him to get involved in any capacity. Rabbi Lustig knew what was at stake when he refused to cooperate less than a year ago, when abuse was no longer taboo and most rabbis called for everyone to help survivors achieve justice. Given Rabbi Lustig’s past and the history with running Oholei Torah for which he has not been held accountable, I cannot be too shocked by the way he continues to handle matters. My family, on the other hand, were there for me when I needed them this time, and it means so much to me. It’s been a long and painful road in finding some middle ground with my family. Instead of ignoring it and pretending like nothing happened as they had for too long, they were ready and willing to do whatever it took to bring justice and closure for me in any capacity necessary. 

Justice and closure have been hard coming. Eichler and his family refuse to face the limelight. Neither he nor his family have publicly commented on the charges. There were those who thought he deserved his day in court; well, he got it, but he chose to not to use it. Eichler did not even file a response to the complaint against him, and a default judgment has been requested. And, it appears that his response to the default judgement against him will be immigrating to Israel. 

I used to wish I could just escape from the past.Today, I think differently. Today, I want to move forward. I know that if I had missed the opportunity to pursue some justice as I decided after my 23rd birthday this past May, it would have been all the more difficult to move forward with my life, still burdened with a conflicted conscious and consuming secret. Now the secret is out, Eichler is exposed, and other children may be safer and other survivors find it easier to come forward. I am unapologetically proud of my choice to file a suit against Eichler for the damage he caused me. Now, I stand prouder and stronger, ready to move forward with my future while being mindful of the evils of the past. While they might be in my past, they continue to be a source of struggle for me and are a present reality for far too many people. The case was brought to court, but that does not mean it’s over; sadly, these battles are never over. Nonetheless, I am relieved to be in a better place in my life to do the things I hope and plan on doing; these include continuing to be an outspoken, unashamed survivor and an unapologetic critic of those who continue to feed toxic and dangerous environments in which abuse is covered up, and, most importantly, to put an end to the deafening silence that has handicapped so many of us. 


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Sholom Eichler Now Residing in Kfar Chabad, Israel
December 31, 2012

After being served papers regarding a civil suit againt him, Sholom Eichler fled the United States and is now residing in Kfar Chabad, Israel.



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Cousin Of Haredi MK Arrested For Child Sexual Abuse
By Shmyra Rosenberg
Failed Messiah Blog - March 21, 2013

Shlomo Eichler is the man on the right
Sholom Eichler was arrested about an hour ago in Kfar Chabad for allegedly molesting one of his cousins.

Chaim Levin writes via email:
Sholom Eichler was just arrested here in Israel because the last time he molested me was here in Israel.…He was arrested about an hour ago in Kfar Chabad and is being brought to Jerusalem as we speak. There are two charges against him…Sexual abuse of a minor/family member [and]…sodomy of a minor/family member.

He moved to Kfar Chabad after I sued him civilly in New York (he ignored the lawsuit and I was awarded a default judgment). The crime was committed in Jerusalem and so the hearing will be here.…

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Sholom Eichler arrested in Israel on sex abuse charges
By Vicki PolinExaminer - March 22, 2013

On March 21, 2013 Sholom Eichler was arrested in Israel on charges of molesting his younger cousin over a three year period starting in 1996. The abuse began when the child victim was only 6-years of age. According to Queerty, an online newpaper, Chaim Levin stated he was abused in both Sholom Eichler’s home and also at a local synagogue.

Back in 2012, Eichler ignored a civil suit in which the alleged survivor was awarded a default judgement. It was at that time Sholom Eichler fled the united states and took up residency in Kfar Chabad, Israel.
View slideshow: Sholom Eichler

Eichler’s family is well known internationally in the orthodox Jewish world for the family owned Judaica Gift and book store Eichler's, which is located in Flatbush (Brooklyn), NY. Sholom Eichler works for the family business as the Website Manager and Programmer.

Eichler attended Yeshiva High School in Pittsburg, PA and Touro College in Jerusalem, Israel. In 2002, Sholom Eichler worked as the office manager at Camp Gan Israel in Montreal, Quebec.

If you or anyone you know was abused by Sholom Eichler, please contact Irwin Zalkin at The Zalkin Law Firm at: 800-724-3235.


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Chasing the Devil - Sholom Eichler in Shackles
By Chaim Levin
Gotta give'em hope (Blog) - March 24, 2013


Sholom Eichler was arrested on March 21st near Kfar Chabad for sexually abusing me as a child. I had already filed a civil lawsuit against him in New York and he ignored the lawsuit and fled to Israel with his family. The result of that lawsuit is still pending, I was awarded a default judgment against him and will hopefully know the amount of that judgment by this coming Monday, March 25th.

As I’ve written previously on my Facebook page and have told many people as well, the last place that Sholom Eichler molested me was when our families were visiting Israel together on a family trip while we were staying at the [then Hilton] David Citadel hotel. The details of that incident, along with many of the other incidents remain clear as day in my mind; I even remember the room number that he abused me in while we were in Jerusalem.

After ignoring the civil lawsuit against him in New York Sholom Eichler and his family fled to Israel because of the default judgment that I was granted against him. Unfortunately for Eichler, the criminal statute of limitations are much broader and severe in Israel, and so I spent the past few months researching my options before deciding to press criminal charges against him. It pains me greatly to know that there are so many sex offenders out there whose victims have the ability to bring them to justice but are too afraid to do so because of community or family pressure, or because they don’t feel strong enough. For 7 seven years I was frightened by the prospect of forcing Sholom Eichler into a courtroom or even confronting him, and it is thanks to the support of many great survivors, advocates, friends and family who showed me that it’s possible to pursue justice despite the staggering intimidation that many victims face once reporting their crime and/or going public especially when coming from more religious communities.

The Israeli justice system operates quite differently than what I was familiar with in regards to how sexual abuse cases are handled in the US. After I received confirmation on Thursday morning that Eichler was arrested, the police requested that I be on “standby” for when they would call me. I thought they would ask me to ID Eichler or something, but what came next was very unexpected. I was brought into a fairly small room with three police interrogators, one of them a translator, and was directed to sit in a seat right across from Sholom Eichler where he was sitting with shackles on his feet.

The main interrogator read Eichler his right to remain silent and warned him that anything he said would be used against him. I was still absorbing the fact that I was sitting right in front of the monster who took so much away from me, the monster that caused so much damage that no amount of therapy will ever undo, but within two minutes I was able to gain my bearings. According to legal experts in Israel, this process is called “eimut” (confrontation) and is used by interrogators to observe the body language between the victim and the accused. I was instructed to look at Eichler and tell him what he did to me, they were adamant that I describe every incident in detail and not hold back on anything. It was at that moment that I looked at the monster in the eyes and told him exactly what he did to me, where he did it and the painful and sensitive details of the times he abused me.

This “confrontation” was sort of like a court proceeding, after I gave my opening statement Eichler was given a chance to respond to what I said, and without an ounce of shame or remorse he attempted to deny everything that I claimed he had done to me. With every word he spoke, with every lie he told I felt my blood boiling to the point where I thought I was going to explode, but although he was lying, his body language was telling a very different story. He was completely unhinged and was shaking non stop, he sounded like he was on the brink of tears and his attempts to discredit what I was saying were clearly not working. One of the things I confronted him about was about a meeting that he and I had five years ago before he got married in which he apologized to me for what he had done to me. I looked at him and said “how dare you sit right in front of me and call me a liar? How do you live with yourself knowing what you did despite the fact that not only did you apologize to me but also admitted your crimes against me to my older brother and my mother as well?”. Eichler admitted to meeting me five years ago, (something he denied until now) and said “I didn’t apologize for what I did to you, I apologized for how you were feeling”.

I pressed further and recounted in vivid detail how Eichler used to wait on his parents’ porch that was just across the street of my school for when I would be walking home from school so that he can lure me inside to commit those unspeakable acts. I also recounted the times that he abused me in the synagogue that our families attended, in my parents’ house, upstate at the bungalow colony that our families both attended during the summer, and of course, one of the most brutal incidents, the last time, in that hotel in Jerusalem on the fifth floor. Eichler had the audacity to attempt and accuse my older brothers of actually abusing me; and when asked by the interrogators why I would make such claims against him he said that he was the “perfect target”. I responded to that by saying that if i was looking for a “perfect target” I would have gone after one of his older brothers which would have ensured that one of them would be sitting in American prison today because they would’ve been well within the criminal statute of limitations within the American justice system.

Those twenty minutes felt like hours and most of the exact details are quite blurred in my head at this point, but luckily it was all on the record and will surely be used to prove his guilt in criminal court. What I remember was the feeling of empowerment I felt when I looked at this evil excuse for a man in the eye and told him exactly what he had done to me and the look on his face, the expression of guilt and shame, feelings that I felt for far too long because of what he had done to me; the tables had finally turned and for the first time in thirteen years Sholom Eichler finally had to answer for his heinous crimes. After leaving that room, I felt nothing but strength and a certain of closure. As painful and emotional as that confrontation was for me, it reminded me that pursuing justice is one of the most important things that a person could do in his or her life.

Eichler was released on bail the next day, the exact amount is still unknown to me but I hope to find out soon, and it is my sincere hope that he will be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law. I hope that others will learn by example that while at certain points the prospect of facing their abuser might seem impossible but the truth is that with the right amount of support, therapy, and healing facing one’s abuser IS possible and the power that abusers enjoy over their victims (the way Eichler had power over me) diminish over time.

Aside from knowing that it was my obligation to make sure that Eichler answer for his crimes and that I exercise every single legal option that was available to me in order to do so, I hope that by pressing criminal and civil charges against my abuser a better precedent will be set in the future for those struggling with the decision of if and how they should take action against those who stole part of their innocence, part of their soul. I know that by being so public about my past and about what was done to me is giving a voice to so many who feel like theirs was taken from them, something I once felt all the time. I’ve been publicly shamed on more than one occasion; anonymous emails and tweets from people who don’t even have the courage to use their real names remind me the importance of this journey and only empower me even more to pursue justice. Those voices of hate and negativity fade and the voices of my family, friends and every single person who supported me and encouraged me echo loudly for me and for the world to hear, to you all, I am thankful, I wouldn’t be here without you.

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