Showing posts with label adult survivors of child sexual abuse. Show all posts
Showing posts with label adult survivors of child sexual abuse. Show all posts

Tuesday, November 26, 2013

Rumors about a "Jewish Advocate for Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse"

Rumors about a "Jewish Advocate for Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse"


The Awareness Center was informed of a rumor that an individual who calls themselves a "Jewish advocate" for survivors, has been convincing some of the survivors he knows to write a Will just in case they happen to commit suicide. 

This self appointed advocate makes it a point for the survivors to make him both the executor of their estate and also have the survivor leave just about everything to him. 

If you or anyone you know has had this happen to them, please contact The Awareness Center  immediately

Tuesday, April 23, 2013

Honoring Beverly Engel

April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month

Honoring Beverly Engel

Beverly Engel has been a psychotherapist specializing in working survivors of sexual abuse and women's issues for over thirty years. She is the author of over twenty self-help books and has been a keynote speaker at conferences in the United States and Canada.  

Wednesday, April 03, 2013

Friday, November 23, 2012

The Awareness Center: Policies Addressing Victimization and Offenders

© (2003, Revised 2006, 2012) 
The Awareness Center, Inc.


The Awareness Center has been contacted by family members and friends of some of the individuals on our sex offender's registry of alleged and convicted offenders.

To help clarify our intentions and policies regarding listing individuals' names on our site, we decided it is best to make our intentions and policies public.
 
The purpose of the information provided on our website is to educate our community on issues pertaining to sexual violence in Jewish communities on an international level.  The Awareness Center is a victim advocacy organization.  One of the goals of The Awareness Center is to prevent anyone else from being sexually victimized (sexually abused, sexually assaulted, clergy sexual abuse, incest) sexual misconduct, sexual harassment).
 
Please note, the only individuals who are listed on our site, are ones who'd had allegations made against them which were then published in reputable newspapers, have transcripts from televisions shows where the case(s) have been discussed, have police records and/or we have court documentation regarding the case, or at least two executive board members have felt we had significant information regarding.
 
We are well aware that unfortunately, there are many other cases in which there is NO paper trail to be found, cases that were not brought to law enforcement's attention, and where no news media group wrote an article referring to the case. Although our intention is first and foremost to help raise awareness to cases of abuse and minimize re-victimization, we cannot post names of alleged persons  without similar documentation. 
 
The Awareness Center encourages everyone to make hot-line report, if and when you suspect a child is at risk of harm. 
 
If you or a family member has been victimized, immediately go to your local emergency room. That is one resource that is usually trained in collecting the forensic evidence needed. Your emergency room is mandated by law to call the police and child protective services. 
 
The Awareness Center encourages individuals who have been victimized and family members to make police reports, follow through with pressing criminal charges, and to testify when requested. If you or anyone you know is being threatened or harassed by an alleged offender, or someone who represents him/her, it is critical that you notify your local police department. You may also want to contact your local rape crisis center for both counseling and legal help (especially if there is any form of witness tampering). 
 
Some of the common threats include prohibiting the child victim and their siblings from being allowed in any Yeshiva (Jewish School), or that rumors would be spread about them to make sure that they not find a spouse when they come of age. Unfortunately, this is a heartbreaking reality. Remember, witness tampering is also a crime that needs to be investigated and prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law.
 
The Awareness Center encourages offenders (emotional, physical and sexual abuse) to seek treatment and make amends with those they hurt. 
 
The Awareness Center adopted the following policy. 
 
If an alleged or convicted offender complies with all the following, our board of directors will meet to discuss removing the name from our page:

  1. After the offender or alleged offender can demonstrate that he/she has apologized directly to the victim(s), and the survivors feel that the apology was sincere.

  2. After the offender has made a public statement acknowledging his/her relevant behavior.

  3. After the offender has entered treatment with a licensed psychotherapist who meets our criteria of someone specializing in sex offender treatment, and can present a certified letter from this therapist stating that "the individual is no longer a threat to those he or she preyed upon.

  4. After the offender has paid restitution to the survivor(s) for the pain and suffering they have endured and also pays for counseling for his/her victim(s).

  5. The offender agrees to sign a written statement stating they will not work (paid or volunteer) for any agency, organization or institution that has any connections with children, or what ever population the offender has victimize.

If an individual listed on The Awareness Center's web page believes they have been falsely accused and wishes to be removed from The Awareness Center's web page:
  1. The alleged offender will need to be evaluated by a licensed mental health provider (at their own expense) who meets our criteria of someone who specializing in sex offender treatment.
  2. The alleged offender will need to sign a release of information form so that the licensed mental health professional can discuss the case with us.  
  3. The licensed mental health professional will need to send us a certified letter stating "the individual does not fit the criteria of someone who is a sex offender or fits the criteria of an individual with a sex addiction".  

Thursday, November 01, 2012

A Yizkor Prayer for those who were abused as children

The Awareness Center wants to thank Rabbi Robert Sax and the Rabbinical Assembly for creating a very special Yizkor prayer for including this meditation for survivors of abusive parents.  To the best of our knowledge this is the first prayer of it's kind to make its way into a prayer book for the High Holidays. 

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A Yizkor Meditation in Memory of a Parent Who Was Hurt
By Rabbi Robert Sax
Mahzor Lev Shalem - For Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur
Published by The Rabbinical Assembly

Dear God,

You know my heart. 

Indeed, You know me better than I know myself, so I turn to You before I rise for Kaddish. 

My emotions swirl as I say this prayer. The parent I remember was not kind to me. His/her death left me with a legacy of unhealed wounds, of anger and of dismay that a parent could hurt a child as I was hurt. 

I do not want to pretend to love, or to grief that I do not feel, but I do want to do what is right as a Jew and as a child.

Help me, O God, to subdue my bitter emotions that do me no good, and to find that place in myself where happier memories may lie hidden, and where grief for all that could have been, all that should have been, may be calmed by forgiveness, or at least soothed by the passage of time. 

I pray that You, who raise up slaves to freedom, will liberate me from the oppression of my hurt and anger, and that You will lead me from this desert to Your holy place. 

—robert Saks


Friday, September 28, 2012

Punk Jews - Survivors of Child Abuse / Neglect?

Not everyone who is OTD (Off the Derech) or consider themselves as being a "Punk Jew" are survivors of any form of child abuse or neglect, yet a large percentage of them are. For that reason, The Awarenesss Center wanted to share this film clip with you.  For more information about Punk Jews - The Documentary: CLICK HERE










Saturday, September 15, 2012

Sunday, August 12, 2012

OTD and Survivors of Child Abuse

So many young people who have been abused either at home or outside the home, who don't get the proper help consider going off the derech daily (OTD).  For those of you in the kiruv world should be addressing what the real issues are.  STOP PROTECTING SEXUAL PREDATORS!


Monday, June 04, 2012

Jewish Survivors of Sexual Abuse Uniting!


On December 31, 2011 a special meeting was held in New York Assemblyman Dov Hikind's office to discuss upcoming legislature that might concern various New York yeshiva administrators.  Pictured above: To the right of Dov Hikind is Agudath Israel executive vice president Rabbi Chaim Dovid Zwiebel.  The yeshiva representatives present were: Rabbi Heshie Dembitzer (Bobov), Rabbi Zalman Gombo (Pupa), Rabbi Yitzchok Gottdeiner (Yeshiva Torah Vodaath), Rabbi Shia Hecht (Belz), Rabbi Naftali Klagsbrun (Satmar),Rabbi Aron Langsam (Belz), Rabbi Shmuel Lefkowitz, Rabbi Yeruchem Shapiro (Bais Yaakov of Boro Park) and Rabbi Meir Weinberger, Yeshiva Chasan Sofer).