Friday, December 31, 2010

Ban by rabbis of Orthodox blog could change views on handling sex abuse




Some are outraged, others are cracking wise -- yet most are wondering whether a ban by a group of rabbis of an Orthodox blog might not be the best thing for a community still wrestling with whether to take allegations of sexual abuse to the police or deal with them “in-house.”
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“I’ve been following Vos Iz Neias? for a long time and I’m a bit baffled by all the accusations made against it,” an employee of the Orthodox Union said. “It could use comment moderation, but the other charges seem foreign to me.”


A group of three dozen rabbis  have signed on to a ban condemning Vos Iz Neias? (Yiddish for “What's News?”) as sinful and “ordering” that their followers neither read it nor advertise on it -- or patronize its advertisers.

An excerpt from a flier posted in various Hasidic communities:

“… the Satan has found a way, that a site exists on the Internet known as ' VosIzNeias?'..it includes stories and events of the corrupt, abominable, and lowly; full of contamination, filth, foul language; slander, gossip, and degrading of Torah scholars; it also prints libels and slander regarding Torah individuals and organizations. Similarly the comments written there are filled with adultery and slander, and increase fights in Israel, putting everyone’s dirty laundry in public. It also writes against officers and politicians under whose favor we live, to ruin their reputation….”

Anger over the ban is something many in the Orthodox community “are thinking yet are to afraid to say outright,” said Vicki Polin, the founder and director of The Awareness Center, a non-profit organization devoted to ending sexual violence in the Jewish community.

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The anonymous publisher ofVos Iz Neias? “has been a friend to many survivors of all sorts of abuses, including those who were sexually victimized,” Polintold CLIFFVIEW PILOT. “He is a good person and is someone who should be honored and respected for reporting the truth instead of reporting a censored version of reality.

“The 36 rabbis who signed the declaration [at right] should be seen as nothing more than cult-like leaders… a group of thugs parading around to be G-d like….

"(Each is) supposed to be a teacher, not a dictator.  They are not kings or royalty.  They are human just like the rest of us," Polin said. "This group of rabbis are taking away free will from those who live within their communities…. [They] are not allowing their followers to utilize their own personal critical thinking.”


"[M]any of the people who use Vos Iz Neias ... are caught in a conflict between what they are led to believe is reasonable and fair and part of normative religious practice and what they are now told is illegitimate to do if they are to be a member of the tribe," Michael Salamon wrote in The Jewish Star.

"Increasing fundamentalism is little more than a way to limit membership and create a group of dedicated individuals," said Salamon, a fellow of the American Psychological Association and the founder/director of ADC Psychological Services in Hewlett, N.Y.

"A pulpit rabbi needs to interact with a diverse congregation as well as the outside world. The yeshiva rabbi selects their students and tries to mold them into a mirror image of themselves," wrote a reader of The Jewish Star. "They strive to maintain absolute control over the lives of their communities and the best way to foster this is to shut out the outside world little by little.

"Jews were known throughout the ages a the people of the book, admired and respected for our knowledge and drive for education. Sad that today we are told to stop reading."
Vos Iz Neias? has reported on attempts by rabbinic organizations to convince victims to go to the police, promoted the statute of limitations extension, and publicized events such as the recent first-ever National Jewish Week for the Prevention of Child Abuse, said Asher Lipner, an abuse survivor and vice-president of the Jewish Board of Advocates for Children.

It’s been “quite an eye-opener for the community to learn how many of their own children have been hurt by this problem,” he told  CLIFFVIEW PILOT.

Still, there is moderation in the discussion.

While not condemning VIN, the publisher of the blog that “outed” the man behind the ban cautions that  Vos Iz Neias? is "very selective about the news it publishes."

The site "censors out the names of most ultra-Orthodox criminals and pedophiles, and many stories go completely unreported," Shmarya Rosenberg, publisher of FailedMessiah.com, told  CLIFFVIEW PILOT.

"VIN means well, to be sure, but they could not exist if they reported the truth or allowed comments to report it, although the comments section is a little looser than than the actual articles posted."

As Rosenberg, Polin and others point out, the ban clearly has less to do with reports of child sex abuse and  more to do with politics.

The rabbis and others have strong ties to New York AssemblymanVito Lopez, chairman of Brooklyn’s Democratic Party, who was the subject of investigations by The New York Daily News -- whose  articles were reprinted by Vos Iz Neias?.

One of those stories centered on the apparent misuse of money from a $100 million-a-year, taxpayer-funded social services nonprofit.

On top of that, Polin said, “it is well-known that Lopez has done everything possible to block the Markey bill last year.

“The Markey bill would have allowed survivors of child sexual abuse to have their day in court and also would lift the statute of limitations, so that older survivors of childhood molestation would be allowed to name their offenders, with the hopes of preventing one more child from being harmed by them,” she explained. “This bill would have allowed survivors to be financially compensated for their pain and suffering.”

According to Rosenberg, a close friend and business associate of Lopez’s, Shimon Weiser of Williamsburg, drafted the ban and got signatures from several Rabbinic leaders from the Hasidic and Lithuanian religious world.

The rabbis were told that “attempts were made to contact and warn VosIzNeias to cease and desist from printing questionable articles,” but that “they were rebuffed,” according to an article published on -- and since removed from -- the 5 Towns Jewish Times web site.

By their own admission, the story reported, “many who signed “did not see the website themselves but relied on printed copies made available to them by Shimon Weiser.” They also weren’t aware of Weiner’s connections to Lopez, it says.

“ When accusations are leveled at anyone – even an anonymous person, they must be verified and the person must be given an opportunity to respond to and examine any evidence,” the article concludes.  “Convictions, bans, and boycotts of advertisers cannot be done solely on the basis of one-sided accusations…. Sunshine is the greatest disinfectant of all.”

Indeed, an unintentional result of the ban may have been deeper consideration, and discussion, among those in the Orthodox community of whether it’s best to go straight to police and prosecutors at the local, state, county and federal levels, or heeding the words of religious leaders who claim a higher law must prevail. The fear is that the community could succumb to the same scandal as the Catholic Church.

It’s been a slow evolution, but even those in “ultra-Orthodox” communities in Brooklyn, Rockland County and at the Jersey Shore have begun to come forward.

In turn, the rabbis have become concerned “more about protecting their images and assets then they are about protecting our children and or unsuspecting adults,” Polin contends.

“It's really a relatively new thing that people look up to rabbis as if they are G-d.  Many of these same rabbis have put a ban on using the Internet, or have only allowed their followers to use servers like JNet, which won't allow subscribers on such sites as YouTube,” said Polin, a licensed clinical professional counselor more than 26 years of experience working with survivors of sexual abuse and assault.

“The only power rabbis have,”  told CLIFFVIEW PILOT, “is the power those in the community give them.”  

Monday, December 27, 2010

New State Laws Will Take Effect Jan. 1, 2011 in Illinois

  • Statute of Limitations (HB 6124/PA 96‐1093): Statute of limitations: Increases the statute of limitations for a civil action for childhood sexual abuse to 20 years from the date the person turns 18, or 20 years from the date the abused person discovers that the act of childhood sexual abuse occurred, and that the injury was caused by the childhood sexual abuse.
  • Child Sex Offenders (HB 6464/PA 96‐1094): Makes it unlawful for a parent or guardian to leave their child in the custody of a convicted child sex offender and also requires registered child sex offenders to report to law enforcement whether they reside in a household with a child younger than 18 who is not their own child.
  • Public Indecency (SB 2589/PA 96‐1098): Increases the penalty for public indecency and sexual exploitation of a child when the offense is committed by a person older than 18 on or within 500 feet of school grounds when children are present.
  • Crime Victim Notification (HB 5791/PA 96‐1092): Allows the attorney general to establish a crime victim and witness notification system to assist public officials in carrying out their duties to notify and inform crime victims and witnesses.
  • Sexual Predator (HB 5043/PA 96‐1089): Requires lifetime registration as a sexual predator for a sexually motivated first degree murder of a person under 18 by a person who is least 17, kidnapping or unlawful restraint of a person under 18 by someone who is not the child's parent, child abduction by luring a child under 16 without the consent of the child's parent, and sexual misconduct with a person with a disability.
  • Sex Offender Restrictions (SB 2824/PA 96‐1099): Prohibits sexual predators and child sex offenders from being in a public park or loitering within 500 feet of a public park.
  • Sex Offender Location Notification (SB 3176/PA 96‐1102): Requires a sex offender or sexual predator to register with the appropriate law enforcement agency if the offender is temporarily living in that jurisdiction for three or more days, and requires a sex offender or sexual predator who is temporarily absent from his or her current address of registration for three or more days to notify the law enforcement agency having jurisdiction over the current registration, including the itinerary for travel.
  • Sex Offense Sentencing (SB 1020/PA 96‐1390): Gives the sentencing judge discretion to impose an extended prison sentence on a major sex offense if the victim was under 18 and the victim was known to be under the influence of alcohol at the time of the offense.
  • Sex Offense Victim Polygraph (HB 5931/PA 96‐1273): Prohibits law enforcement from even asking a sex offense victim to submit to a lie detector test.
  • Sexting Teens under the age of 18 face stiffer penalties if they are caught distributing lewd photographs using their cell phones or computers. Under the state’s new “sexting” law, violators could be sentenced to community service and counseling.
  • Rape crisis records: Expands the privacy rights that adults with guardians have over their rape crisis counseling records;

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    Friday, December 24, 2010

    Rabbis who Publicly Support the Efforts of The Awareness Center To End Sexual Violence in Jewish Communities Around The World

    Rabbis who Publicly Support the Efforts of The Awareness Center To End Sexual Violence in Jewish Communities Around The World
    (Sexual Abuse, Sexual Assault, Rabbinical Sexual Misconduct, Sexual Harassment)
     
     
    Below is a list of Rabbis who support the efforts of The Awareness Center.  If you are a rabbi (of any recognized affiliation) and would like to be included, please send an email to: VickiPolin or a "snail mail", with a note giving us permission to add your name on your synagogues stationary.  Please include your full name, synagogue, organization, city, state, and country. 
     
    If you are or are not a rabbi, please share this request for supporters with every rabbi you know.  



    List of Rabbis
    1. Rabbi Jonathan F. Adland - Indianapolis, IN

    2. Rabbi Barbara Aiello - Milan, Italy

    3. Rabbi Morris Allen - Mendota Heights, MN

    4. Rabbi Ruth Alpers - Cincinnati, OH

    5. Rabbi Camille Shira Angel - San Francisco, CA

    6. Rabbi Benjamin Arnold - Evergreen, CO

    7. Rabbi Stephen A. Arnold - South Easton, MA

    8. Rabbi Jeffrey Astrachan - Old Bethpage, NY

    9. Rabbi Craig Axler - Spring House, PA

    10. Rabbi Ian J. Azizollahoff - New York, NY

    11. Rabbi Stephen Baars - North Bethesda, MD

    12. Rabbi Jeremy Barras - Charlotte, NC

    13. Rabbi Lewis M. Barth - Los Angeles, CA

    14. Rabbi Bernard Baskin - Temple Anshe Sholom, Hamilton, Ontario

    15. Rabbi Lia Bass - Arlington, VA

    16. Rabbi Marcelo Bater - Oranjestad, Aruba

    17. Rabbi Micah Becker-Klein - Keene, NH

    18. Rabbi Arnold Mark Belzer - Savannah, GA

    19. Rabbi Jim Bennett - St. Louis, MO

    20. Rabbi Joshua L. Bennett - West Bloomfield, MI

    21. Rabbi Matthew Berger - Long Grove, IL

    22. Rabbi Leslie Bergson - Claremont, CA

    23. Rabbi Alexis Berk - Nashville, TN 

    24. Rabbi Joel Berman - Boardman, OH

    25. Rabbi Shmuel Birnham - West Vancouver, BC, Canada 

    26. Rabbi Joseph R. Black - Alburquerque, NM

    27. Rabbi Yosef Blau - New York, NY

    28. Rabbi Barry H. Block - San Antonio, TX

    29. Rabbi David Blumenthal - Atlanta, GA

    30. Rabbi Lewis E. "Buz" Bogage - Greencastle, IN

    31. Rabbi Reuven Bulka - Ottawa, Ontario, Canada

    32. Rabbi Elina Bykova - Quebec City, Quebec, Canada 

    33. Rabbi Kenneth Carr - Lafayette Hill, PA

    34. Rabbi Donald P. Cashman - Albany, NY

    35. Rabbi Adam Chalom - Highland Park, IL 

    36. Rabbi Joshua Chasan, Burlington Vermont 

    37. Rabbi Michael Chernick - New York, NY 

    38. Rabbi Paul Citrin - San Diego, CA 

    39. Rabbi Avraham Citron - Belfast, Ireland

    40. Rabbi Howard A. Cohen - Bennington, VT

    41. Rabbi Phil Cohen - Wyncote, PA

    42. Rabbi Stephen Cohen - Santa Barbara, CA

    43. Rabbi Hillel Cohn - San Bernardino, CA and Las Vegas, NV 

    44. Rabbi Allison RH Conyer - Santa Barbara, CA

    45. Rabbi Sigma Faye Coran - Williamstown, MA

    46. Rabbi Meryl Crean - Media, PA

    47. Rabbi Celso Cukierkorn - Sunny Isles, FL

    48. Rabbi Eric Cytryn - Harrisburg, PA

    49. Rabbi Gail Diamond - Jerusalem, Israel 

    50. Rabbi Stephanie Dickstein, CSW - New York, NY 

    51. Rabbi Fred Scherlinder Dobb - Washington DC 

    52. Rabbi Malka Drucker - Sante Fe, NM

    53. Rabbi Yaakov Dvorin - Skokie, IL 

    54. Rabbi Laurence Edwards - Chicago, IL

    55. Rabbi Amy Eilberg - Palo Alto, California 

    56. Rabbi Serena Raziel Eisenberg - Berkeley, CA 

    57. Rabbi David Ellenson - New York, NY 

    58. Rabbi Lawrence A. Englander - Mississauga, Ontario, Canada 

    59. Rabbi Helaine Ettinger - West Orange, NJ 

    60. Rabbi Yeshaia Charles Familant - Menlo Park, CA 

    61. Rabbi David Feder - Morgantown, WV 

    62. Rabbi Stuart Federow - Houston, TX 

    63. Rabbi Shaul R. Feinberg - Jerusalem, Israel

    64. Rabbi Marla J. Feldman - New York, NY 

    65. Rabbi Natan Fenner - San Francisco, CA 

    66. Rabbi Steven M. Fink, D.Min., D.D.- Baltimore, MD 

    67. Rabbi Reuven Firestone - Los Angeles, CA 

    68. Rabbi Irwin Fishbein - Westfield, NJ 

    69. Rabbi Dov Ben Shlomo Forman, Phd - Weston, FL 

    70. Rabbi Jonathan B. Freirich - South Lake Tahoe, CA 

    71. Rabbi Susan Friedman - Cary, North Carolina 

    72. Rabbi Dov I. Frimer - Jerusalem, Israel 

    73. Rabbi Eli Garfinkel - Somerset, NJ 

    74. Rabbi Nancy Fuchs-Kreimer - Philadelphia, PA 

    75. Rabbi Jeffrey Gale, Wantagh, NY 

    76. Rabbi Hillel Gamoran - Seattle, WA 

    77. Rabbi Lisa B. Gelber - New York, NY 

    78. Rabbi Gary S. Gerson - Oak Park, IL 

    79. 79.  Rabbi William Gershon - Dallas, TX 

    80. Rabbi James A. Gibson - Pittsburgh, PA 

    81. Rabbi Melvin J. Glazer - Miami, FL 

    82. Rabbi Gary Glickstein - Miami Beach, FL 

    83. Rabbi Robert J. Gluck - Albany, NY 

    84. Rabbi Brian Glusman - Birmingham, AL 

    85. Rabbi Connie Golden - Philadelphia, PA 

    86. Rabbi Irwin N. Goldenberg - York, PA 

    87. Rabbi Eva Goldfinger - Toronto, ON, Canada 

    88. Rabbi Barbara Goldman-Wartell - Allentown, PA 

    89. Rabbi Andrea Goldstein - St. Louis, MO 

    90. Rabbi Maralee Gordon - Woodstock, IL 

    91. Rabbi Avraham Greenbaum - Jerusalem, Israel 

    92. Rabbi Fred Greene - Bridgeport, CT 

    93. Rabbi Stanley Greenstein - New York, NY 

    94. Rabbi Tina Grimberg - Toronto, ON, Canada 

    95. Rabbi Arthur Gross-Schaefer - Los Angeles, CA 

    96. Rabbi Susan Grossman, Columbia, MD 

    97. Rabbi David S. Gruber, Frisco, TX 

    98. Rabbi Yehoshua C. Grunstein - Halifax, Nova Scotia, Canada 

    99. Rabbi Susan Gulack - Albany, NY 

    100. Rabbi Larry J. Halpern - West Linn, OH
    101. Rabbi Ze'ev Harari - Lindenhurst, IL 

    102. Rabbi Sidney M. Helbraun - Northbrook, IL

    103. Rabbi Rachel Hertzman - Baltimore, Md 

    104. Rabbi Jay B Heyman - San Francisco, CA 

    105. Rabbi Michael Hezbrun - Rochester, NY 

    106. Rabbi Brad Hirschfield - New York, NY 

    107. Rabbi Joshua Hoffman - New York, NY 

    108. Rabbi Lawrence A. Hoffman - New York, NY 

    109. Rabbi Daniel Isaak, Portland, OR 

    110. Rabbi Mark Israel - Washington DC 

    111. Rabbi Lisa Izes - New York, NY 

    112. Rabbi Adam Jacobs - New York, NY 

    113. Rabbi Howard L. Jaffe - Lexington, MA 

    114. Rabbi Beth Janus - Aptos, CA 

    115. Rabbi Eitan Julius - San Jose, CA 

    116. Bruce E. Kahn - Chevy Chase, MD 

    117. Rabbi Dr. Pinchas Kahn - Jerusalem, Israel 

    118. Rabbi David Kaiman - Gainesville, FL 

    119. Rabbi Gerald M. Kane - Las Cruces, NM 

    120. Rabbi Harley Kartz-Wagman - Everett, WA

    121. Rabbi Robert Kasman - Schenectady, NY 

    122. Rabbi Stuart Kelman - Berkeley, CA 

    123. Rabbi Paul David Kerbel - Marietta, GA 

    124. Rabbi Aviva Kipen - Victoria Australia 

    125. Rabbi Marc Aaron Kline - Lexington, KY 

    126. Rabbi Peter S. Knobel - Evanston, IL 

    127. Rabbi Joseph Kolakowski - Richmond, VA 

    128. Rabbi Jamie S. Korngold - Boulder CO 

    129. Rabbi Allen Krause - Aliso Viejo, CA 

    130. Rabbi Yaacov J. Kravitz, Ed.D. - Abington, PA 

    131. Rabbi Barry Krieger - Orono, Maine 

    132. Rabbi David J.B. Krishef - Grand Rapids, MI 

    133. Rabbi Vernon Kurtz - Highland Park, IL 

    134. Rabbi Shira L. Lander, Ph.D. - Baltimore, MD 

    135. Rabbi Eric M. Lankin, D.Min. - New York, NY 

    136. Rabbi Alan LaPayover - Penn Valley, PA 

    137. Rabbi Anson Laytner - Seattle, WA 

    138. Rabbi Robert Leib - Abington, PA 

    139. Rabbi Maya Leibovich - Mevasseret Zion, Israel 

    140. Rabbi David Leipziger - Middletown, CT 

    141. Rabbi Michele Lenke - Wellesley, MA 

    142. Rabbi Rita Leonard - Ray Brook, New York 

    143. Rabbi Joel Levinson - Patchogue, NY 

    144. Rabbi Aaron Levy - Ithaca, NY 

    145. Rabbi Shalom Lewis - Marietta GA 

    146. Rabbi Yehoshua Lewis - New Brunswick, NJ 

    147. Rabbi Dov Linzer - New York, NY

    148. Rabbi Asher Lipner - Brooklyn, NY

    149. Rabbi Ellen Lippmann - Brooklyn, NY 

    150. Rabbi Daveen Litwin - Northampton, MA 

    151. Rabbi Jessica E. Locketz - Alexandria, VA 

    152. Rabbi Sarah E. Mack - Providence, RI 

    153. Rabbi Jill L. Maderer - Philadelphia, PA 

    154. Rabbi Mark Mahler - Pittsburgh, PA 

    155. Rabbi Mark Mallach - Springfield, NJ 

    156. Rabbi Richard J. Margolis - Melbourne, FL 

    157. Rabbi Joseph M. Menashe - Baltimore, MD 

    158. Rabbi Joseph B. Meszler - Sharon, MA 

    159. Rabbi Brian I. Michelson - Reading, PA 

    160. Rabbi Tamara Miller - Washington, DC. 

    161. Rabbi Mendel Mintz - Fort Collins, CO 

    162. Rabbi Michelle Missaghieh - Los Angeles, CA 

    163. Rabbi Lon Moskowitz, San Luis Obispo, California 

    164. Rabbi Len Muroff - Lakewood, CA 

    165. Rabbi Ron Muroff - Harrisburg, PA 

    166. Rabbi Michael Namath - New York, NY 

    167. Rabbi Daniel S. Nevins - Farmington Hills, MI 

    168. Rabbi Aharon Newman - Baltimore, MD 

    169. Rabbi Kerry M. Olitzky - New York, NY 

    170. Rabbi Joseph S. Ozarowski - Chicago, IL 

    171. Rabbi Sandy Roth Parian - New Hope, PA 

    172. Rabbi Jordan Parr - Plano, TX  

    173. Rabbi Jack P. Paskoff - Lancaster, PA 

    174. Rabbi Stephen M. Passamaneck - Los Angeles, CA 

    175. Rabbi Pinchas N. Pearl - Brooklyn, NY 

    176. Rabbi Dr. Yaakov Pearlman - Dublin, Ireland 

    177.  Rabbi Eli B. Perlman - East Brunswick, NJ 

    178. Rabbi Eliot H. Pearlson - Miami Beach, Florida 

    179. Rabbi Aaron L. Peller - Scranton, PA 

    180. Rabbi Deborah Pipe-Mazo - Barnstable, MA 

    181. Rabino Baruj Plavnick - Buenos Aires, Argentina 

    182. Rabbi Shalom Podwol - Forest Park, IL 

    183. Rabbi Philip Pohl - Olney, MD 

    184. Rabbi Milton H. Polin - Jerusalem, Israel
    185. Rabbi Seymour Prystowsky - Lafayette Hill, PA 

    186. Rabbi Robert J. Ratner, Ph. D. - Asheville, NC 

    187. Rabbi Mark R. Raphael - Gaithersburg, MD 

    188. Rabbi Michael Reches - Baltimore, MD 

    189. Rabbi Michael M. Remson - Pittsburgh, PA 

    190. Rabbi Laurie Rice - Woodinville, WA 

    191. Rabbi Philip Rice - Seattle, WA 

    192. Rabbi Louis A. Rieser - Derry, NH 

    193. Rabbi Daniel A. Roberts - University Heights, OH 

    194. Rabbi Rochelle Robins - Ardmore, PA 

    195. Rabbi Yair Robinson - Newtown, PA 

    196. Rabbi H. David Rose - Potomac, MD 

    197. Rabbi Kenneth D. Roseman - Corpus Christi, TX 

    198. Rabbi Nochum Rosenberg - Williamsburg, NY 

    199. Rabbi Joel Roth - New York, NY 

    200. Rabbi Ronald S. Roth - Nashville, TN

    201. Rabbi Jonathan Rubenstein - Saratoga Springs, NY
    202. Rabbi Elisheva Sachs - Cotati, CA 

    203. Rabbi Douglas Sagal - Westfield, NJ 

    204. Rabbi Jeffrey K. Salkin - Atlanta, GA 

    205. Rabbi Scott Saulson - Atlanta, GA 

    206. Rabbi Peter B. Schaktman - Honolulu, HI 

    207. Rabbi Susan Shankman - Washington, D.C. 

    208. Rabbi Zev Schechter - Silver Spring, MD 

    209. Rabbi Binyamin Scheiman - Niles, IL 

    210. Rabbi Judy Schindler - Charlotte, NC 

    211. 210.  Rabbi Janine C. Schloss - St. Louis, MO 

    212. 211.  Rabbi Michael Schudrich - Warsaw and Lodz, Poland 

    213. 212.  Rabbi Burt Schuman - Altoona, PA 

    214. Rabbi Barry L. Schwartz - Cherry Hill, NJ 

    215. Rabbi Beth L. Schwartz - Knoxville, TN 

    216. Rabbi Gedalia Dov Schwartz - Chicago, IL 

    217. Rabbi Amy Schwartzman - Falls Church, VA 

    218. Rabbi Peter Schweitzer - New York, NY 

    219. Rabbi Larry Sebert - New York, NY

    220. Rabbi Arthur Segal - Hilton Head Island, SC

    221. Rabbi Sam Seicol - Brookline, MA 

    222. Rabbi Jerry H. Seidler - Amherst, NY 

    223. Rabbi Drorah Setel - Buffalo, NY  

    224. Rabbi Irit Shillor - Harlow, England and Vienna, Austria 

    225. Rabbi Nahum Simon, PhD - Sunrise, FL 

    226. Rabbi Mark L. Shook - St. Louis, MO 

    227. Rabbi Howard Siegel - Houston, TX 

    228. Rabbi Yaakov (Jeffrey) Siegel - Island Park, NY 

    229. Rabbi Jonathan Siger - Macon, Georgia 

    230. Rabbi Murray Singerman - Baltimore, MD 

    231. Rabbi Ze'ev Smason - St. Louis, MO 

    232. Rabbi Myra Soifer - Reno, NV 

    233. Rabbi Eric Solomon - Bronx, NY 

    234. Rabbi Steve Solomon - Baltimore, MD 

    235. Rabbi Ned. J. Soltz - Arlington, TX 

    236. Rabbi Jack D. Spiro - Richmond, VA 

    237. Rabbi Miriam Spitzer - Ottawa, Ontario, Canada 

    238. Rabbi Sonya Starr - Columbia, MD 

    239. Rabbi Brian Strauss - Houston, TX 

    240. Rabbi David Straus - Wynnewood, PA 

    241. Rabbi Arthur Z. Steinberg - Portsmouth, VA 

    242. Rabbi David Steinberg - Burlington VT 

    243. Rabbi Jeffrey Stiffman - St. Louis, MO 

    244. Rabbi Shlomo Tenenbaum - Chicago, IL 

    245. Rabbi Elliott Tepperman - Montclair, NJ 

    246. Rabbi Jon-Jay Tilsen - New Haven, CT 

    247. Rabbi Robert L. Tobin - Westport, CT 

    248. Rabbi Daniel Treiser - Plantation, FL 

    249. Rabbi Jason van Leeuwen - Los Angeles, CA 

    250. Rabbi Nosson Vershubsky - Voronezh, Russia 

    251. Rabbi Elyse Wechterman - Attleboro, MA 

    252. Rabbi Neal Weinberg - Los Angles, CA 

    253. Rabbi Daniel A. Weiner - Seattle, WA

    254. Rabbi Simkha Weintraub - New York, NY 

    255. Rabbi David M. Weis - Northfield, NJ 

    256. Rabbi Harvey Well - Skokie, IL 

    257. Rabbi Ann White - Venice, FL 

    258. Rabbi Nancy H. Wiener - New York, NY

    259. Rabbi Shohama Wiener - New Rochelle, NY 

    260. Rabbi Jeffrey S. Wildstein - Minneapolis, MN 

    261. Rabbi Aryeh Wineman - Troy, NY 

    262. Rabbi Joel Wittstein - London, ON, Canada 

    263. Rabbi Julie Wolkoff - Waltham, MA 

    264. Rabbi Yosef Wolicki - Netanya, Israel 

    265. Rabbi Alan Yuter - Baltimore, MD 

    266. Rabbi Doug Zelden - Chicago, IL 

    267. Rabbi David J. Zucker - Aurora, CO 
 
    268. Rabbi Julie Anne Zupan - Sharon, MA


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    Thursday, December 23, 2010

    Starting in January, 2011

    Dear Friends,

    Starting the first week of January, The Awareness Center will be taking a sabbatical, while we reorganize and seek out funding. 

    The Awareness Center's web page will no longer be available. Those of you who are subscribed to daily newsletter will continue to receive messages.  Our blog will stay up and will be updated with information from time to time.


    The Awareness Center, Inc.
    (the international Jewish Coalition Against Sexual Abuse/Assault)
    P.O. Box 4824
    Skokie, IL  60076

    Tuesday, December 21, 2010

    The Times Are A Changing. . .

    Dear Friends,

    I can't believe it's almost the end of the year already. So many things have happened this year in the realm of how Jewish communities around the globe have been handling cases involving sexual predators.

    It's been amazing to see how the efforts of The Awareness Center over the last 12 years have been reaching into some of the most insulated orthodox Jewish communities and along with Survivors from all the movements of Judaism are speaking out.

    The truth is that it is no longer a secret that Jewish communities are not exempt from having sexual predators amongst us, we are just like any other group of people when it comes to the statistics of those who have been sexually victimized.

    Due to the lack of funding this year has been extremely difficult for our organization, In 2010 we were forced to suspend our "friendly line" which survivors and family members could call in to and receive help. It also pained us a great deal that we were faced with the dilemma of not having the needed resources to keep our sex offender registry up and running.

    As 2011 approaches the reality of how hard the economy has been on us is staring us right in the face.

    Many of our regular donors have become unemployed, and new donors have not been able to pick up the slack.

    As the end of the year draws nearer, we are faced with the fact that The Awareness Center does not have the necessary funds to keep our web up on the internet. Without immediate help, our web page will come down until such time as we can afford to put it back up. The sad part about this is that we finally have a group of people who are volunteering their time assisting us in creating a new and better web page to assist more people in a format which would be much easier to navigate through.


    I can assure you this much, The Awareness Center is NOT shutting down -- yet we are being forced to be on an extended sabbatical. Only you can help us to continue to be a driving force in the Anti-Rape movement, within Jewish communities globally

    If you have ever been helped by us, or you care about Jewish survivors of sex crimes, from within ALL movements of Judaism, please feel to help us during these economical challenges. Send your donation checks to the address below, or go to our home page and click on the donate button to us a credit card.

    Sincerely.

    Vicki Polin, MA, LCPC
    Founder and CEO

    The Awareness Center, Inc.
    (the international Jewish Coalition Against Sexual Abuse/Assault)
    P.O. Box 4824
    Skokie, IL 60076


    The Awareness Center believes Jewish survivors of sexual violence should be given yellow ribbons to wear proudly.

    Survivors of sexual violence (as adults and/or as a child) are just as deserving of a yellow ribbon as the men and women of our armed forces, who have been held captive as hostages or prisoners of war. Survivors of sexual violence have been forced to learn how to survive, being held captive not by foreigners, but mostly by their own family members, teachers, camp counselors, coaches babysitters, rabbis, cantors or other trusted authority figures. For these reasons ALL survivors of sexual violence should be seen as heroes!

    Wednesday, December 15, 2010

    NJ Legislation Bans TSA Scanners and Criminalizes Unreasonable Searches and Invasive Pat Downs


    New Jersey Senator Michael Doherty (R-Warren, Hunterdon) announced today that he has introduced three pieces of legislation drafted to eliminate any immunity TSA agents might enjoy when violating New Jersey law during unnecessary and invasive airport screenings:“For more than a month now, the TSA has quite literally stuck their finger in the eye of law-abiding American citizens while trampling on their constitutionally guaranteed liberties,” Doherty stated. “We call upon every state legislature in our great country to immediately act to put our federal government on notice that the dignity of our citizens shall not be the cost of a failed federal open border policy.”
    The following bills were introduced:
    • Makes certain body searches third degree crime of sexual assault under certain circumstances. View as PDF.
    • Prohibits use of body imaging scanners to screen passengers and airline crew members. View as PDF.
    • Specifies that certain images generated by body scans violate State statutes, prohibiting invasion of privacy, pornography, and endangerment of child welfare under certain circumstances. View as PDF.
    “All of these bills remove any claim that TSA agents are immune to any state statutes that they violate when searching passengers or crew,” Doherty concluded. “If we don’t take strong action against these violations, where will it lead? Today planes, tomorrow trains and buses, what then? Will the drive to the market be viewed as a ‘privilege,’ the walk to church? Will we stand upon the slippery slope of paranoia that leads to invasive searches becoming a way of daily life, or say ‘No’ and defend our rights to privacy now while we still have them.”
    Senator Doherty has launched an online petition to support his efforts to stop invasive TSA screening procedures at http://www.stopthetsa.org.

    Friday, December 03, 2010

    Alleged and Convicted Sex Offenders on Facebook (from Jewish Communities)

    PLEASE NOTE:  This list is not complete
    The following individuals have been on The Awareness Center's Alleged and Convicted Sex Offender Registry.  To report a convicted sex offender to facebook click here.
    • Rabbi Sheldon Zimmerman (Suspended from the Reform movement's rabbinic organization because of sexual impropriety was later hired to a top position by a program that sends thousands of young Jews on free trips to Israel..  Sheldon Zimmerman was based in Cincinnati, OH, yet, also had responsibility for the Hebrew Union College's campuses in New York, NY; Los Angeles, CA and Jerusalem, Israel) http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000583796435

    Frustration - Why doesn't the frum world focus on Incest?

    Frustration - Why doesn't the frum world focus on Incest?
    © (2010) by Vicki Polin, MA, LCPC
    The Awareness Center's Daily Newsletter - December 3, 2010
     

    I have to admit that I am very frustrated and have been for some time.  There's a huge population of children and adult survivors who are being ignored.
    Why is it that the majority of those who call themselves "advocates" for Jewish survivors in the orthodox world ignore the fact that the majority of cases of child abuse occurs in the home.  

    46% of the cases of child sexual abuse involve the fact that the offenders are the victims mothers, fathers, aunts, uncles, siblings, grandparents and cousins.  Only a small fraction of cases happen in schools, camps, mikvah's and other locations.  It's only 2% of all clergy that are sex offenders. 
    I totally understand that those who want to be called advocates have been using their own voices not only to help others, but also as a tool to help themselves in their own personal healing journey.  This is a very important step to be able to do for some, yet not at the expense of others.  Those who want to really advocate for others, NEED to be trained, especially the lay people who have no real experience in speaking out.  Every community has a local rape crisis center, in which a 40 hour certification program is available.  This should be a required program for individuals to go through prior to calling themselves an advocate for other survivors.  
    It is also very important for anyone who promotes themselves as a mental health professional to be licensed in the state they are working, and also have the educational background and specialized training in working with trauma survivors.  You wouldn't go to an eye doctor for a heart problem -- why would you go to a therapist who doesn't have specific training in Trauma to help guide you through your healing journey?
    The focus of the work in the orthodox world needs to be on ALL children and adult survivors, and not just those abused by clergy, in mikvahs, at schools or at camps.  
    Those who are or have been abused by relatives really need the most help.  Think about it, they can't go to their parents for help, and it's nearly impossible to find orthodox rabbis, teachers, or camp counselors who will do the right thing.  This population of survivors need your attention and need it today!

    Wednesday, December 01, 2010

    Surviving Hanukkah: Jewish Survivors of Childhood Abuse (Incest, Emotional, Physical and Sexual Abuse)

    © (2005, Revised 2006), The Awareness Center, Inc.


    Hanukkah is for many a time filled with wonderful memories of rushing around to purchase gifts and cards for loved ones; of families and friends getting together, lighting the Menorah, eating potato pancakes, and singing the traditional songs.

    However, for survivors of childhood abuse (emotional, physical and sexual abuse), this festive time can be a time where painful memories reemerge. It is not unusual for survivors to need to make decisions about how to best keep themselves safe during the holiday: some may need to spend time with friends who understand their conflicted emotions toward the holiday, some may need to limit their time with their families, while others may not feel safe spending the holiday with family at all. Even for those who make alternate plans, there is often a sense of loss of the loving, healthy family they never had or the memories they wish they'd had. Hanukah--like other times where families traditionally get together--can be a difficult time for those who no longer have contact with family members due to the degree of dysfunction that was (and often still is) in their family.

    This is a time of year when a survivor may find it safer to retreat than to participate in holiday functions--the associations and memories may be too painful, too emotions too close to the surface. This is not a failure or wrongdoing, but can be seen as yet another aspect of the aftermath of abuse in the family. It is important that each individual survivor finds what works best for him or her so that they can optimize their ability to stay emotionally healthy. If you decide to be with your family and are nervous about how you'd feel about it, it can be helpful for you to designate ahead of time a 'safe person' with home you can debrief afterwards or call if things get tough while with family. It is vitally important that each person be kind to themselves about the decisions they make for holiday plans. The rest of us need to respect the survivor's decisions, and to understand that they may decide not to participate in Hanukah events.

    If you know someone who is a survivor of childhood abuse, maybe you can take upon yourself to check in with them over the eight-day holiday. Maybe invite the survivor to your house for lighting the menorah or a family meal, and if they say no let them know they can change their mind and come at the last minute. Remind them they are not alone, that you are there. That you understand.

    Holidays are often times for families to get together. School may be out, vacation days may be taken; routines are changed. In many families there is--along with the excitement and happiness of getting together--an added stress of cleaning and preparing meals, sometimes financial issues over not being able to afford the kind of holiday celebration one might want.

    It is a reality that some parents have difficulties managing their own stress and are already inclined to use their children as an outlet for emotions and urges. Such parents are often even more likely to do so when under the pressure of increased anxiety, close quarters with their own family of origin (and it's pressures), and holiday stress. Though clearly not all stressed-out parents abuse their children, many survivors of childhood abuse do report that their abuse became more intense around and during holidays.

    If you know parents who struggle to manage stress, see if you can discretely and gently offer them your support: Maybe offer to take care of the children for a bit, to take them on an outing or host a meal; maybe provide the parents with information about resources available in their community (such as parental hotlines in your community). Be a friend. By allowing the parents some time for themselves and offering venues for relief, you can greatly assist in the parents in managing their anger and stress.
    If you are a survivor, remember: YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

    It is not uncommon for symptoms of PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) to re-emerge even after times of relative remission and/or intensify in those already struggling. If holiday times are difficult for you, you may experience an increase in disturbing thoughts, nightmares and flashbacks. Thoughts of self-harm, even suicide, may be an issue. The crucial thing for you to remember is that these feelings are about the past; that the abuse is over and it is of utmost importance for you to be kind to and gentle with yourself. To stay safe.

    Over the years we've spoken to many adult survivors who admitted that they find it very painful to even think of being around family members, even around friends. This is sad, but it is OK. Someday you may feel different--many survivors do with time--but if the pain right now is too intense, you need to do what is healing for YOU and set boundaries to what feels safe for you.

    One survivor shared that she felt uncomfortable not doing anything for Hanukkah, so she'd rent movies that she found carried an empowering theme for her. Another survivor invited other Jewish Survivors over to his home and together they created their own 'tradition' that felt healing and empowering.

    Whatever works for you is OK. You are not alone; not wrong; not bad for having second and third and forth thoughts about how to celebrate and if to celebrate the holidays. Look into yourself and see what you need, then do what you can to do it, and be kind to yourself for needing to make these adjustments.

    Todah Rabah for Surviving!


    Suicide Prevention
    The National Hopeline Network
    1-800-SUICIDE


    National Child Abuse Hotline
    1-800-4-A-CHILD (24 Hours a Day)


    National Runaway Switchboard
    1-800-621-4000