Tisha B'Av and Survivors Of Sexual Abuse Mourning Their Loss Of Innocence

Over the last 24 hours I was reminded that it was Tisha B'Av.

For those who are orthodox it's sort of like the national day of mourning of the loss of the first and second Temple.

I can't help but think about how many Jewish survivors of sexual abuse who are told "to just get over it, the abuse happened to you as children or years ago".  


Why is it that for several thousand years we can mourn the loss of the Beis HaMikdash, but survivors of sex crimes are not allowed to mourn the loss of their innocence?