Friday, December 31, 1999

In Memory of Anne Marie and Erik Erikkson and the Incest Survivors Resource Network International (ISRNI)


Anne Marie and Eric Erikkson

INCEST SURVIVORS RESOURCE NETWORK INTERNATIONAL
Friends Meeting House 15 Rutherford Place New York, New York
Mail Address: P.O. Box 7375, Las Cruces, NM 88006-7375
(505) 521-4260      Fax: (505) 521-3723
Web Site: http://www.zianet.com/ISRNI     E-mail: ISRNI@zianet.com

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Anne Marie Erikkson
 March 30, 1932 - April 3, 1999
Erik A. Eriksson, Lt. Col., USAF (Ret)
December 28, 1920 - January 28, 1999


History Lesson in advocating for the rights of adult survivors of child sexual abuse:

Incest Survivors Resource Network International (ISRNI), founded in 1983 at the New York City Friends Meeting House, is a survivor-run international network and EDUCATIONAL RESOURCE dedicated to prevention. Since 1983 it has operated the first national and international helpline for incest survivors and professionals answered in person by incest-survivors-only (hours now reduced from 24-hr to 2-4pm ET and llpm-Midnight ET Mon-Sat). It continues to encourage inquiries from adult survivors of mother-son incest and also continues to include information on forming self-help groups. ISRNI has been a co-sponsor of numerous conferences held by national and international community and professional organizations and the National Organization for Victim Assistance (NOVA) annual National Forum on Victim Rights. ISRNI also provided the resource list that accompanied the Eleventh Commandment Foundations's panel on child sexual abuse held in the People's Republic of China at the 1995 UN NGO Forum on Women.

ISRNI was founded and is operated as a religious peace witness by incest survivors concerned with the relationship of unresolved traumatic stress to strife and violence in the world. An independent non-profit organization that accepts no outside funding, ISRNI provides its resources to the public by being an adjunct to the Task Group on Family Trauma of New York Yearly Meeting, and to the Las Cruces Monthly Meeting, both of the Religious Society of Friends (Quakers). Anne-Marie Eriksson, a retired probation officer, is president. Vice-president Barbara Santee, PhD (medical sociology), works in women's health issues. Secretary-treasurer, Erik A. Eriksson, Lt. Col., USAF(Ret), was formerly secretary-treasurer of the Region IX Tri-Service Military Family Advocacy Subcommittee.

ISRNI is concerned with Post-traumatic Stress Disorder as a component of inter-generational transmission of verbal and physical violence; especially regarding overt, covert and emotional incest. The experience of ISRNI has been that resolution of trauma involves spiritual recovery intertwined with three integral camponents: Education, professional therapeutic intervention and self-help.

Sought as a resource by many, including the media, ISRNI has been a catalyst in numerous areas. Since its inception, it has fostered the building of bridges between professionals and self-help groups. ISRNI president, Anne-Marie Eriksson, was co-founder and co-chair of the International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies "Interest Area on Building Bridges Between Professionals and Self-help Groups". From 2/83 through ll/87 ISRNI facilitated an early, unique incest-survivor-only mixed gender group. ISRNI was a pioneer in discussing: the aftereffects of incest; female offenders; the vital need for effective treatment programs for juvenile offenders; the role of the mother in father-daughter incest; the concept of emotional incest.

ISRNI is a member of: Friends Association for Higher Education; International Peace Research Association; National Adolescent Perpetrator Network; National Committee to Prevent Child Abuse;  National Organization for Victim Assistance; National Victim Center;  and World Federation for Mental Health,  among others. It is a co-convenor of the Ouaker Sexual Child Abuse Prevention Network (Ouaker SCAPnet). On behalf of ISRNI, board members and officers are members of: American Professional Society on the Abuse of Children;  International Society for the Prevention of Child Abuse and Neglect;  International Society for the Study of Dissociation;  International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies;  National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges; as well as a number of survivor-run organizations such as M.A.L.E;  National Organization on Male Sexual Victimization;  and VOICES in Action, Inc.

ISRNI presented at the Fifth International Congress on Child Abuse and Neglect; the Eighth Conference of Parents United International; the Second and Fourth Annual Meetings of the International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies; the First and Third International Conferences on Incest and Related Problems and was among the expert consultants at the World Federation for Mental Health's 1987 Consultation on Meeting the Mental Health Needs of Victims at the United Nations Headquarters in New York City.

A Quaker witness EDUCATIONAL RESOURCE

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Anne Marie Eriksson's Resume - June 15, 1997
Scope and content
This collection contains documents and materials concerning the Incest Survivors Resource Network International (ISRNI) compiled by Anne Marie Eriksson, former president and board member. While most of the materials come from or relate to ISRNI, the collection includes documents pertaining to other related organizations that Eriksson was involved with. Personal files for Erik and Anne Marie Eriksson are included.
The bulk of the collection encompasses the organization's inception (1983) through its dissolution (1998). However, the file also contains documents preceding ISRNI's incorporation.

EMPLOYMENT: (Please note: Full-time service to ISRNI has always been without salary or other compensation; The other positions were salaried)

1983 - Founding President, Incest Survivors Resource Network International (ISRNI), an educational resource adjunct to the Task Group on Family Trauma, New York Yearly Meeing of the Religious Socity of Friends. Organized and still operate the ISRNI helpline, the first national and international helpline for survivors and professionals answered in person by incest-survivors-only. Co-facilitated mixed gender peer group, 1983-87.

1972-84 - Probation Officer assigned to New York State Courts in Kings, New York and Queens Counties. In addition to regular duties was also the agency representative on the New York City Advisory Task Force on Sexual Assault.

1971-72 - Family Worker. Childrens Aid Society Head Start, New York City.
1964-71 - Community volunteer while at home with three children. Volunteer service included serving on the Community Advisory Board of Beth Israel Medical Center, New York City, 1972-82.

1960-64 - Social Worker, NYS Department of Social Welfare, assigned to NYC Aftercare, NYS Training School for Girls.

1960-60 - Organizer and interim Supervisor, Children's Social Services, NY Association for the Blind (The Lighthouse)

1955-59 - Preschool Counselor, NY Association for the Blind (The Lighthouse), New York City 
EDUCATION:
1982 - Numerous courses and workshops on family violence and incest. Certificates in Incest and Rape Crisis Intervention from Adelphi University Resource Center for Crime Victim Advocates (1986) and from St. Vincent's Medical Center, NYC (1983).

1959-60 32 graduate credits from CUNY Hunter College School of Social Work (attended on a one year scholarship as a winner of national competition sponsored by New York State Department of Social Welfare).
1955 - B.S.in Early Childhood Education, SUNY, Fredonia.


PRESENTATIONS included: (physically unable to travel after 1990)
Aug 1989 - Third International Conference on Incest & Related Problems, London. Also received award.

Apr 1989 - Co-chair and presenter, Symposium on Incest, New York City

Oct 1988 - Fourth Annual Meeting, International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies, Dallas

Aug 1987 - Presentation for Family Court staff, Goteborg, Sweden

Aug 1987 - First International Conference on Incest & Related Problems, Zurich

Sep 1986 - Second Annual Meeting, International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies, Denver

Aug 1984 - Eighth Annual Parents United International Conference, Santa Clara, CA

Sep 1984 - Fifth International Child Abuse Congress, Montreal

Dec 1983  -  U..S. Attorney General's Task Force on Family Violence, New York City (also over one hundred presentations in USA and Europe for local organizations, universities and agencies)

MEMBERSHIPS include:
  • American Professional Society on the Abuse of Children (Membership Committee);
  • International Peace Research Association: International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies (was founding co-chair of the Interest Area on Building Bridges Between Professionals and Self-Help Groups); 
  • International Society for the Prevention of Child Abuse and Neglect; 
  • National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges (Membership Committee); 
  • National Organization for Victim Assistance; Quaker SCAPnet (Coordinator); 
  • VOICES in Action, Inc. (Board member, 1985).
HONORS include:
Expert Consultant at World Federation for Mental Health's 1987 Consultation on Meeting the Mental Health Needs of Victims, United Nations Headquarters, New York City
Listed in: Who's Who in America, 51th Edition (1996); Who's Who Among Human Among Human Service Professionals

Resources:
 An Inventory of the Incest Survivors Resource Network International Papers, 1983-1998
Anne Marie and Eric Erikkson heroes to many

Friday, December 10, 1999

Case of Rabbi Yaakov Yitzhak Brizel

Case of Rabbi Yaakov Yitzhak Brizel
Modesty Squad - Jerusalem, Israel
Bnei Brak, Israel

 
Accused of molesting several male children.  Allegations were made of a cover up.   

Shiye Brizel's book, "The Silence of the Haredim,"discloses the story of his father's molestation of boys, and how he chasidic world covered up the sex crimes.

If anyone has any more information on this case (including photographs), please forward it to The Awareness Center
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Table of Contents:   
  
1999
  1. His Song is The Song of Middle Israel  (12/10/1999) 

2000 
  1. Sodomy in the synagogue - Mother went out of her mind  (02/01/2000)
  2. Though Shalt Not Expose Sex, Crime and Hypocrisy (02/27/2000)

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His Song is The Song of Middle Israel
By Yoram Bronowski
Ha'aretz - December 10, 1999
Global News Wire
 
Citation for the book: Brizel, Chie. Shetikat ha-Haredim / Shiye Brizel. -- Tel-Aviv : Yediot Aharonot ; Sifre Hemed, 1999. 220 p. ; 21 cm. Title on t.p. verso: Hasidims silence. (A possible English title is "Silence of the Ultra-Orthodox". I don't know if it was ever published in English).
 
What is Spain?
 
An abominable silence
 
Arapali tried to explain what makes Amichai's poems so popular, even among people who are not poetry freaks. "Anyone can pick up an Amichai poem and find himself in it," said the professor, alluding to the profound yet simple humanity in Amichai's work. Somek spoke about the poetry of Amichai as "an island of sanity" in our mixed up world, seemingly an odd way to describe poetry, yet amazingly apt when it comes to Amichai, a poet of civilian life, an anti-romantic (in the sense of romanticism as the "beautiful malady," the source of the passionate verse produced by the Romantics). It was romanticism, and especially East-European romantic nationalism, which gave birth to the idea of a national poet. No wonder that Amichai, the yekke, endowed with some of the more admirable traits of German-born Jews, objects to this term, alien to the spirit of his poetry. He refuses to be a national poet. Amichai's song is the song of Middle Israel (he has written about his longing for "Middle Jerusalem"), the song of the Israeli as he lives from day to day, in richness and in poorness. The surprise guest on this show was Ada Yardeni, the daughter of Amichai's good friend Dicky, who was killed in the War of Independence and is often mentioned in his poems. Any sense of "gimmick" soon disappeared in the face of the beauty and refinement of this woman, who was helped by Amichai to discover the father she never knew, who died when she was just a baby. Throughout the program we saw archival photos of the young Amichai, gun in hand, and the older Amichai, reading poetry or out for a walk: a moving album for lovers of Yehuda Amichai.
 
But that evening, on "Meet the Press" (19:15), we saw him as he is today - or almost (the interview was taped, contrary to the norm for this program). Guy Zohar talked to him after his return from the United States, where he underwent a serious operation. He has since recovered from his illness "which we shall not name," said Guy Zohar, although he had already named it a moment earlier: cancer. Not that Amichai is afraid of the word, but as he politely agreed, spelling it out was not necessary.
 
It was a straightforward television interview. Amichai, incidentally, praised our television, which he feels is better than American TV, although Zohar knows that is not a great compliment. Anyhow, the questions were ordinary, and that was perfectly appropriate, with Amichai's answers also excelling in a wonderful ordinariness, not at all put on. "I've never played the poet," he told Zohar, who depended a little overmuch on cliches, but did ask a good question about what price the family paid for having a famous father. "No price at all," responded Amichai.
 
Amichai is also well aware of the character of eternity in our day. "Even eternity is not eternity," he said, as if reciting a line from one of his poems. In effect, all his simple, human, down-to-earth, yet often wise, replies could have come straight out of a poem. Amichai knows about relativity and the vanity of fame and eternity, but he doesn't knock the million dollars that come with the Nobel Prize - a prize that somehow, as you watch him, you can't help wishing he will win. French-Spanish relations, or perhaps we should say the puzzle and the challenge to France posed by its neighbor to the west (no less puzzling and challenging to France, perhaps, than its neighbor to the east - Germany), was the subject of a recent installment of the excellent French culture magazine "Bouillon de Culture," taped at the new Guggenheim Museum in the Basque city of Bilbou. I missed the first showing of this program, but there was a repeat this week (Saturday, TV5, 15:15), so that I, too, had the opportunity to meet the writers and artists of Spain - first and foremost Jorge Semprun, a French writer and Spanish statesman, symbol of the eternal bond between these two countries.
 
Semprun began the interview, hosted by Bernard Pivot, with a quote from "Meditations on Don Quixote," by the greatest Spanish philosopher of the century, Ortega y Gasset. "Mi Dios, que es Espana?" Gasset asks. "My God, what is Spain?" This is a question that keeps Spaniards awake at night, claimed Semprun, who cannot answer it any better than the Frenchmen who have been pondering the "myth of Spain" for hundreds of years.
 
One way of addressing this dramatic question is humorously, as demonstrated by the Catalonian actor Jose Maria Flatts, who repeated it over and over in different intonations - as a reproach, a complaint, a prayer, a mini-drama. What is Spain? Spain is...Spanish, he splutters. The problem of Spanish identity is that Spain is so diverse, so hugely heterogeneous that the heterogeneity of every other European country is dwarfed by comparison.
 
In the course of the discussion, we discovered "only" four major languages: Castilian (what we call "Spanish"), Catalonian, Basque and Galician (spoken in Spanish Galicia), three of which were represented around Pivot's table. But the diversity and heterogeneity actually goes much further than that, and even Catholicism cannot pave over the incredibly numerous cultural differences.
 
Bernardo Atxega, a Basque writer, defended his language. It is the "great language of a small people," he said, a language like no other in Europe, whose origins have stumped the experts for years (it appears to be related to a number of Caucasian dialects). Flatts, the Catalonian, described his childhood, very different from that of a Spanish child, and his embrace of French as a linguistic and cultural refuge from Catalonian insularity. Semprun, Spain's former minister of culture who lives in Paris most of the time, hailed Spanish diversity as a creator of opportunities.
 
Pivot began the discussion by asking each of his guests which event in Spanish history was most significant in his or her eyes. The youngest guest, Jose Angel Manas, the author of a successful novel (also climbing the charts in France) called "I Am a Frustrated Writer," was only four when Franco died, but he sees this date, and the end of Franco-ism, as the foundation stone. Another author, Carmen Posadas, goes back as far as 1492, a date connected in her mind primarily with the discovery of America.
 
A third author, Reverte (I didn't catch his first name) also cited the end of Franco-ism, under which Spanish culture had been frozen. Because Franco claimed ownership over the classics - Cervantes, Velasquez, and so on - they lost all their charm for young people. "No one reads Cervantes any more," said Reverte. "It is only taught at universities."
 
This sparked a great outcry in the studio. Pivot related that on a recent three-day trip to Madrid, he dropped in several times to listen to the adventures of the Man of La Mancha being read from start to finish at a hall packed with hundreds of people. The provocative Reverte, retreating just a bit, declared that Don Quixote had nothing to do with Spain, but that Sancho Panza was indeed a true representative of the Spanish soul.
 
Shiye Brizel is an ultra-Orthodox man in his thirties. At the age of 11, he walked into the empty women's section of the synagogue where his family prays and chanced upon his father, a scribe and a respected figure in Bnei Brak, lying on top of a 16-year-old boy in a position that could only mean one thing. Brizel told this to Yair Lapid ("Yair Lapid Live at Ten," Sunday, Family Channel, 22.05) in one of the most shocking interviews I can recall on this program, which has been around for quite some time.
 
Brizel has just published a book, "The Silence of the Haredim," in which he relates the story of his father, the Haredi homosexual, his mother, who already knew of her husband's sexual orientation as a 19-year-old bride, and the hypocritical efforts to hush up cases like these in the ultra-Orthodox community.
 
Listening to Brizel, it was hard to think of a crueler community - not that being a homosexual in Israel in general is so easy, even today. "We, the enlightened," Yair Lapid properly pointed out, "do not see anything wrong with homosexuality." For the ultra-Orthodox, however, homosexual love is an abomination. As one hopeless fool among our country's leaders put it last week, homosexuality is a genetic problem, and if he were minister of health, he would set aside money to cure these sick people. God save us from the possibility that a man like him should ever become a minister of health in Israel.
 
On "A New Evening" one day last week, incidentally, one of the Shas ministers, Shlomo Benizri, found himself face to face with a friendly, highly intelligent lesbian. Minister Benizri (I hope to God he's not the minister of health...) began to explain to her that "she has a problem." Well, so do you, she replied. "You're Haredi."
 
I was reminded of this remarkable scene as I heard Shiye Brizel, an educated, likable man, telling Lapid that he remained ultra-Orthodox even after confronting all the abominations he describes in his book (written together with Efrat Ben-Tsedek). Judaism, he said, "is a very beautiful religion." Imagine that, I marveled. It goes to show you the power of faith. Today, Brizel and his family live very far away from the Haredi community.
 
Apropos Haredim, on the excellent program "Discussing Matters" (Saturday, Channel Two, 9:30), which also dealt with attitudes towards homosexuality, the most intelligent man on the panel, Yaron London, called Minister Benizri a "dumbbell." Perhaps that wasn't the most appropriate epithet, especially since London was talking about one of the most cunning men ever to serve in the Israeli government, but his apology was grossly exaggerated. Even courtesy has its limits.
 
Erratum: Germaine Greer's book "The Female Eunuch" appeared in 1970, and not as stated in this column last weekYehuda Amichai is 75, and Channel Two did the right thing in celebrating this important cultural event on Saturday, in the wake of a number of other parties held in the poet's honor. One of them, sponsored by the Jerusalem Municipality, featured well-known singers performing Amichai's poems set to music: "At a Glance" (Saturday, 11:00), launched Amichai Day with an exceptionally lovely program that included tapes of Shlomo Gronich, Yoni Rechter, Rikki Gal and others performing at this party. In the course of the program, Avirama Golan interviewed the poet Ronny Somek and Prof. Boaz Arpali, author of an excellent book on Amichai's poetry.

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Sodomy in the synagogue - Mother went out of her mind
by Shahar Ilan
Ha'aretz - February 1, 2000

And the Modesty Squad Kept Silent: For Many Years, Yaakov Yitzhak Brizel, The Nephew of the Founding Leader of the Modesty Squad, Sodomized Ultra-Orthodox Boys. The Greatest Reabbis Knew - And Did Nothing
  
Though Brizel was a scion of the Brizel family, which founded the Modesty Squad, the mysterious organization that imposes moral order on the ultra-Orthodox ghetto, like most ultra-Orthodox children he had no idea what a homo was. As he sensed that he had been told something terrible, he left school in the afternoon and went home. "Mother, what is a homo?" he asked. His mother blanched, but she kept the secret: "When you grow up, you'll know, Shaiya, when you're big you'll know," she replied.
 
Shaiya Brizel was already very tenacious. He decided that such a difficult problem could be solved only by the rabbi of Bnei Brak, Rabbi Yaakov Landau, one of the most important of the ultra-Orthodox rabbis, who has since died. "My name is Shaiya Brizel," he told the rabbi. "I've come to you to tell you what happened at my school and to ask you a question." Landau, it turns out, knew exactly what the secret was. "I will not explain to you what a homo is," he replied. "I will tell you only that I know who your father is, and he desecrates the name of the Lord in public."
 
Now it had become official. Brizel understood that his father, a respected Torah scribe, had transgressed a huge prohibition of the Torah. But only his older friend, Menachem, was prepared to explain to him what that prohibition was. Menachem used the means known to every ultra-Orthodox child. He took the Book of Leviticus and opened it to 18:22: "Thou shalt not lie with mankind as with womankind; it is an abomination."
 
What is the punishment, Shaiya demanded. Menachem could not evade it: "Whosoever shall do any of these abominations, even the souls that do them shall be cut off from among their people" (18:29).Had the father, Yaakov Yitzhak Brizel, the nephew of the founder of the Modesty Squad, Eliezer Brizel, contented himself with homosexual relations with adults, it is reasonable to suppose that we would never have heard his son's story. However, in his book, "The Silence of the Ultra-Orthodox," published a few weeks ago, the son claims that for decades his father seduced and sodomized yeshiva students. He committed the act in empty synagogues during the hours between prayers and in other places.
 
The greatest of the ultra-Orthodox rabbis, claims Brizel, like Rabbi Landau and the halachic sage Shmuel Halevi Hausner of Bnei Brak, knew and kept silent. The father was a Hasid heart and soul, and went to a number of rebbes. One of these, the Rebbe of Kretschnif from Rehovot, expelled him from his following after he discovered the truth. But the twin brother of the rebbe from Rehovot, the Rebbe of Kretschnif in Kiryat Gat, was happy to accept the father among his followers. Ultimately, claims Brizel, it was not easy for the Rebbe from Kiryat Gat to be picky when he could win such a respected adherent.
 
The reknowned Brizel family, one of the pillars of the extreme ultra-Orthodox wing known as the Eda Haharedit, had no need to bring the Modesty Squad into the affair; it was involved in any case. The Brizel family used its enormous influence to hush up the affair, again and again.
 
Did you ask your grandfather's brother, Rabbi Eliezer Brizel of the Modesty Squad, why he kept silent all these years?
 
"No, he was not a person I could talk to. He was older than me by 70 years. He wasn't someone I could hold an ideological discussion with."
 
Did you ask anyone in the Modesty Squad why they kept quiet?
 
"I know why they kept quiet: because no one has the strength to meddle with Brizel family. Every time anyone submitted a complaint against my father to a rabbinical court because of what he did, my uncle would immediately show up at the court and close the matter."
 
The proud father with the look of an honored rebbe, who observed all the commandments from the slightest to the most important, used to pray at a certain yeshiva with the young boys. There, claims Shaiya Brizel, he hunted his victims. When the head of the yeshiva discovered the true reason that the respected Torah scribe was praying fervently at his yeshiva, he did not contact the police, but confined himself to expelling the father from the synagogue and transferring the problem to someone else's territory.
 
Before the publication of his book, Shaiya Brizel met with the yeshiva head. "You are right that we covered up for him," admitted the man. "I and a few other rabbis...I was busy trying to calm things down and hushing up the affair so that it would not get publicized." The rabbi also begged Brizel to give up the book. "Shaiya, these things happened a long time ago. Your father is old and can no longer sin."
 
But Shaiya is also a Brizel, and when he goes into battle he uses all the means at his disposal. He published the book using real names. His entire family and almost all the rabbis appear under their own names. Only the names of some of the localities and the head of the yeshiva are disguised. To protect himself from a legal point of view, Brizel held a series of conversations with members of his family and rabbis, in which he demanded explanations of why they had covered up for his father's misbehavior. He secretly recorded all these conversations, even with his mother.
 
"If I had written without the names it would have been fiction and this certainly did not suit me," he explained. "I wanted things to change, for ultra-Orthodox society to know that it can attempt to hide things and be hidden, but even if it takes 30 years, a Golem will always rise up against its creator and reveal everything. In this case, I was the Golem."When Rachel Brizel, the daughter of a good Bnei Brak family, married an arranged match from the glorious Brizel family, she had no idea that she was destroying her own life. After six months, she caught her husband having sex with another man. In that case, at least it was with an adult.
 
Shaiya Brizel relates that some of the boys with whom his father had relations sent letters of complaint to their own fathers; in the discreet ultra-Orthodox society they had no one else to whom they could complain.
 
"When she read these letters, my mother went out of her mind," writes Brizel. "Every such letter made her want to demand a divorce. Again and again batteries of mediators, the Brizel rabbis, would show up, whose job it was to calm her down so that, heaven forbid, she would not destroy the good name of the Brizel family. They could live with the fact that one of their own had raped minors, but for them divorce was an impossible situation."
"We, the children," he relates, "became objects of derision." He recounts that in ultra-Orthodox society there is a special scornful look that is used when a person who has someone with a bad reputation in his family is identified. But this does not always end in dirty looks. Twice, once during prayers in a synagogue, and once during a Gemara study hour at Rabbi Eliezer Shach's Ponevezh Yeshiva, ultra-Orthodox men who were strangers to him touched his sexual organ, presumably on the assumption that he followed in his father's footsteps. The first time, he made a fuss, only to discover that the only thing that interested the people there was to hush the whole thing up. The second time, he made do with a whispered warning to the man.
 
How do you feel about your father?
 
"I pity him and hate the way he behaved. He should have remained single. A person is not supposed to bring children into this shame."
 
Shaiya Brizel is now 36 and the father of three; he works as an accountant. His father, 65, was forced to leave home several years ago and return to his elderly parents' apartment. Shaiya wrote this book after a suicide attempt in June of this year. "For all those years I was half dead. For the past five years I have been getting psychological treatment. During my talks with the psychologist I decided that I was going to spew out all this ugliness in the form of a book."
 
He took into account that there would be violent reactions to the book. These have not occurred, perhaps because the book, which only came out a few weeks ago, has not yet roused the expected tempest. Brizel suffers from a serious heart defect, which could cause his death. As a way of protecting himself, he has deposited a letter with three lawyers that contains serious allegations about the Eda Haredit, and he has informed the relevant people.
 
Recently, he has moved to a new apartment, and he lives in the National Religious sector of a mixed community of National Religious and ultra-Orthodox families. Naturally, he started praying at the only Hasidic synagogue in the settlement. After the book came out, associates of the local rebbe informed him that he was persona non grata. Ironically, this same rebbe had come to the area after being compelled to leave several other communities on suspicion of having sodomized his pupils. In ultra-Orthodox society, revealing that acts of sodomy have been committed is a far graver offense than committing them. On the day the book was published, Brizel met with the head of the Hachemei Lublin Yeshiva, Rabbi Avraham Vazner. "He told me that publishing the book was a million times worse than what my father had done, and warned me that I would not be able to find marriage partners for my children."Ha'aretz has been unable to obtain a response from Rabbi Yaakov Yitzhak Brizel. At his parents' home, a woman replied: "We don't care. Shaiya is a liar and there is nothing more to be said."
 
Ha'aretz also requested the Brizels' response through the Eda Haredit activist Yehuda Meshi- Zahav. By the time the article went to press, there was no response through this channel either.
 
Several weeks ago the father responded to the women's magazine La'isha, saying that he would sue the publishers, which has not yet happened. It is unlikely that it will happen. Shaiya Brizel was ready to put off publication of the book, on condition that the family sue him in a rabbinical court, in which the affair would be aired. He has said that no one in the family was prepared to take up the challenge.
 
In the conversation with La'isha, the father said that he was indeed a homosexual, "But I have had treatment and today I am no longer like that. All this is behind me."
 
In reply to a question as to whether he had sexual relations with minors, he replied: "Perhaps I will talk about that some other time." He accused his son Shaiya of being "the only one who is after me. He has destroyed my life...He wrote this only for the money. He wanted money from me...Because of him I separated from my wife."
 
Shaiya's sister, Rivka Hubert, spoke with great anger to the La'isha reporter about the fact that her brother had revealed the names of the persons involved, and declared: "We deny everything it says in the book.At the age of 11, Moisheleh, the strongest fellow in the talmud torah (school for ultra-Orthodox boys), went up to Shaiya Brizel and said to him: "Kid, I want you know that your father is not the holy man you think he is. He is a homo".

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Though Shalt Not Expose Sex, Crime and Hypocrisy
By Phil Reeves
The Independent (London) - Sunday February 27, 2000

AT FIRST glance, Chie Brizel, an accountant, seems to conform to the cruder stereotypes of his profession. He has a clerical air, reinforced by a large pair of spectacles and an impeccable office.
 
He lives in a small apartment in Petakh Tikva, between Jerusalem and Tel Aviv. He is devout, soft-spoken, orderly, and about as flashy as a paper-lip. He is not, in other words, the kind of man you would expect to expose a scandal of religious hypocrisy, crime and sex at the secret heart of Israel's ultra-Orthodox world.
 
Mr Brizel, 36, father of three, belongs to a family that were highly regarded members of the "haredi" (ultra-Orthodox) sect; his father's uncle was the founder of the Modesty Squad, the shadowy organisation which imposes moral order. The squad has beaten up haredim who are deemed to have gone astray, and burned down their homes.
 
So there was shock and, among the haredim, anger when Mr Brizel published The Silence of the Haredim, a book alleging that his father had seduced and sodomised teenage boys in empty synagogues, and that the Modesty Squad hushed it up because of his family's status.
 
The ultra-Orthodox regard homosexual sex as a profound sin. As his father held the elevated position of a Torah scribe, who obeyed every other aspect of the scriptures to the tiniest detail, and as his alleged victims were as young as 14, Chie Brizel's accusations could hardly have been more serious.
His claims were seized on by the national media, who were only too happy to find further evidence of corruption within the haredim, whose self- imposed segregation, secrecy and intolerance has long been the source of resentment among Israelis.
 
Within three hours of circulating a proposal for his book, he had five publishing offers. Once the book was out, Ha'aretz, the country's most staid newspaper, devoted a half-page to it.
 
Mr Brizel says he produced the book as a form of self-therapy and saw it as the only way to get the issue into the open. In the fundamentalist world of the haredim, victims of sexual abuse are usually too frightened and too alienated from mainstream society to complain to outsiders. The police are generally distrusted.
 
"Sex education in the haredi community is so undeveloped that the victim of abuse has no idea whom to turn to," Mr Brizel told The Independent on Sunday. "The only person he knows he can talk to is the perpetrator. We used to get letters to my father from his victims, asking why he had assaulted them."
 
Mr Brizel also admits he wanted to expose the hypocrisy of haredi leaders, who forbid people from owning televisions or mobile phones and dictate their sexual practices to them.
 
"My greatest anger is against the community leaders, not my father. They are the ones who let the show go on. If it had been anyone else, the Modesty Squad would have broken his arms and legs without a second thought."
 
He says the author's fee, which he claims was modest, was insignificant compared with the emotional stress involved in writing it. Mr Brizel has been ostracised by the haredi community into which he was born. He is also alienated from most of his family, whom he secretly tape-recorded in order to gather evidence to back his accusations in case of a lawsuit.
 
One senior rabbi told him that publicising the scandal was "100 times worse" than the allegations against his father. In this benighted world, it seems the eleventh commandment has acquired a communal dimension: thou shalt not be found out.
 
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